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She keeps stealing everyones stuff :(
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Ok, I'm in a cottage (halls of residence still) with 5 other first year students, although there's only two of us around 18/19, the others are a few years older, up to 24! Anyway, one girl seems to be pinching everyones food and stuff... nothing major and nobody would mind a little bit, but she seems to do it habitually. I finished my orange juice the other day and had a full carton in the fridge unopened.. came down and it's half gone! Ok, so it's only 50p a carton but I invested in it for the week as I love having orange juice in the morning.
Another guy brought 24 bottles of water with him, and after the second week they were all gone! (he drank one a day). A few days later I noticed a lot of the empty bottles had been filled with Robinsons orange cordial and stuffd in the fridge - by a lot I mean 6 or 7 - which is another clue because the same girl who I thought took my orange juice is the only one who drinks the orange cordial!
All my teaspoons went the first week so I had to buy some more, and they've started going too now, and I did a naughty thing and found some in her drawer.
My teatowel is just gone . Others have complained about her 'use without permission' method of going about things - she's got a cupboard full of kitchen cookware but for some reason uses this other girls pretty much all the time. She'll come in the Kitchen, open this girls cupboard and just takes what she needs.
Although I can't pin this on her either, I've had the odd packet of noodles etc. go missing from my cupboard... But from a process of elimination I think it's her - because:
- one flatmate cooks everything from fresh ingredients, always!
- one flatmate has complained that her stuff is going missing too
- one flatmate is really sound :thumb: and sometimes asks if he can borrow my stuff but he always makes sure to ask first - he'll even come up to my room and knock on the door etc.
- one flatmate also asks if he can borrow stuff, he was the one with all his water pinched, but he tends to cook rice. Lots and lots of rice. :yippe:
This last girl, she's nice enough in person - though getting used to her personality can be harrowing as she's very confrontational. On her first night she was crying and banging on doors and stuff and I told the other guys saying I thought she was homesick, then she came up to me and said 'excuse me! Did you say xxxxx about me??' and I tried to laugh it off... but I wasn't gossiping about her I was just saying she was really upset.
I'm thinking one of two things, or possibly both are true.
1. She's taking advantage of other people, not maliciously but perhaps that's what she is used to, and should really only use her own stuff most of the time and take the odd bit of universal commodity (for example, I borrow salt to put in my pasta - but I did ask at first but they said no prob anytime).
2. I'm too possesive of my own belongings, but I go to the shop and pay for them and other people eat them that's not very fair is it? But my sister complains to me at home because I don't share my stuff with her there either.
What would you guys do? I was thinking, I'd let it lie for a bit and hopefully it would blow over, because it's lots of little things really, but then my orange juice carton was opened and I knew for a fact I didn't open it. Bah. Miffed.
Another guy brought 24 bottles of water with him, and after the second week they were all gone! (he drank one a day). A few days later I noticed a lot of the empty bottles had been filled with Robinsons orange cordial and stuffd in the fridge - by a lot I mean 6 or 7 - which is another clue because the same girl who I thought took my orange juice is the only one who drinks the orange cordial!
All my teaspoons went the first week so I had to buy some more, and they've started going too now, and I did a naughty thing and found some in her drawer.
My teatowel is just gone . Others have complained about her 'use without permission' method of going about things - she's got a cupboard full of kitchen cookware but for some reason uses this other girls pretty much all the time. She'll come in the Kitchen, open this girls cupboard and just takes what she needs.
Although I can't pin this on her either, I've had the odd packet of noodles etc. go missing from my cupboard... But from a process of elimination I think it's her - because:
- one flatmate cooks everything from fresh ingredients, always!
- one flatmate has complained that her stuff is going missing too
- one flatmate is really sound :thumb: and sometimes asks if he can borrow my stuff but he always makes sure to ask first - he'll even come up to my room and knock on the door etc.
- one flatmate also asks if he can borrow stuff, he was the one with all his water pinched, but he tends to cook rice. Lots and lots of rice. :yippe:
This last girl, she's nice enough in person - though getting used to her personality can be harrowing as she's very confrontational. On her first night she was crying and banging on doors and stuff and I told the other guys saying I thought she was homesick, then she came up to me and said 'excuse me! Did you say xxxxx about me??' and I tried to laugh it off... but I wasn't gossiping about her I was just saying she was really upset.
I'm thinking one of two things, or possibly both are true.
1. She's taking advantage of other people, not maliciously but perhaps that's what she is used to, and should really only use her own stuff most of the time and take the odd bit of universal commodity (for example, I borrow salt to put in my pasta - but I did ask at first but they said no prob anytime).
2. I'm too possesive of my own belongings, but I go to the shop and pay for them and other people eat them that's not very fair is it? But my sister complains to me at home because I don't share my stuff with her there either.
What would you guys do? I was thinking, I'd let it lie for a bit and hopefully it would blow over, because it's lots of little things really, but then my orange juice carton was opened and I knew for a fact I didn't open it. Bah. Miffed.
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I buy things because I want to have them, if I could afford enough food for two people I'd eat better. She needs to keep her filthy mits off your stuff and it's probably about time you got your flat together and had a word.
Don't say "You dirty bitch, you've been taking my stuff" say "My stuff has been walking and I can't afford to feed more than me, I don't really know who's been at it, but it stops now"
I'd keep everything you own nailed down in your room- that's what we did. As for the butter and milk, a drop of green food dye never did anyone any harm.
I don't know how successful post-it notes would be- someone who nicks won't be deterred.
Just tell her it pisses you off, keep things that don't have to be refrigerated in your room too.
She'll be nicking them next !
I'd go for the group thing though.
Or everyone stop speaking to her until she asks why people are ignoring her!
dont listen to my daft ideas, im just amusing myself.
and don't worry about talking to her, she clearly doesn't worry about being a thieving cow.
We did that last year as someone kept drinking our milk and it soon stopped, lol!!
ETA: Dammit, i only read the 1st page and got beaten to it!
There comes a point where post-it notes and patronising signs around the place fail and strong words need to be had. Rather than a post-it note saying something like "Will whoever keeps nicking xyz out of my cupboard please not", have a house meeting and confront her about this. If you're sure it's her, then the meeting is the best way to do it as you make it aware to her that you all know she's been nicking stuff and that it vill not be tolerated.
Failing that, I like the laxatives idea.
I had one of those people in second year. We confronted him about it, things got heated, I called him a fat cunt (sic) and after that things were remarkably peaceful.
What can I say? It worked. Criticize the method if you like, but you can't fault the results.
I may be a bit of a maverick, I may have bent the rules, but by GOD do I get results.
potw
just keep what you can in your room.
House meeting is the way to go.
Thats all very well, and what iwas thinking, but then i thoughty, no why should he, he has the right to think his stuff is safe, especially in his own room! Id confront her, she has no right to do thats. what i buy is for me, you have budgeted for a ertain amount of juice to last a certain amount of time, and the money does build up. I think you should all confront her together.
Rant over. Sorry things like that really wind me up.
I told my mum and she said she'd have a word :banghead: