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how irritating are these in relationships.
i think i used to get a laugh out of watching my ex text to her friends, but it turned out i was just insecure about who she was texting. i didn't ever read her phone but i know it's pretty common in d-rate relationships.
i think i used to get a laugh out of watching my ex text to her friends, but it turned out i was just insecure about who she was texting. i didn't ever read her phone but i know it's pretty common in d-rate relationships.
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It's annoying if they're texting their bit on the side when you're with them. You start to get suspicious when everytime they get a text of a certain guy the FIRST thing they say is 'I'm with Rich'. Maybe I sound paranoid. I was right though
*goes mental*
Which tells me she didn't want her boyfriend to see a guy's name in her phonebook .. aint women sneaky ..
:yes: while the miracle of texting can boost your love life, it can also wreck it if there isn't a mutual respect when it comes to using them. Which may sound a bit OTT - we're just talking about phones afterall But there's lots of issues to consider including snooping, getting distracted in other's company, jealousy etc.
Learning to have mutual respect or understanding when it comes to your partners space and habits is part of dealing with any of these issues.
Please tell me you dont use txt speak, I'm guessing you do, you are Northern after all.
what's that got to do with the price of cabbage?
Are you sure you are not just mistaking the Jamaicans who live in the South for real Southerners?
My current girlfriend has done something similar with photos of a guy from work she had on her phone. I was looking through her photos (with her there) and when I got to them she snatched it away... hmmmm
Also, it bugs me when she's constantly checking her phone for messages when we're out and texting her mates/family. Yet when I text her it can take hours and hours for a reply and she always gives the excuse that she has other things to do like when she's out with mates or at work, yet I know when mates text her when she's out with me she'll drop whatever she;s doing with me and have a text conversation with them straight away!! :mad:
Bloody phones!!!
What bit? the texting mates while i'm there but not the other way round?
She said it's because she see me a lot (4 times a week) but her mates only once a week or once a fortnight so she makes the most of talking to them. I've kind of just accepted that, it doesn't explain her family though, she sees them every day!!
Yeah, although I didn't say anything for weeks that really worried me. When I did bring it up she said she only snatched it away because she knew how I would react. In the end I asked her how she would feel if I had some pictures of a random girl from work and she said she wouldn't like it and got rid of them. But since then she has basically argued the other way and said if it happens again there's nothing I can say about it and that she's not doing anything wrong.
I think we both know that if it did happen again it would bother me again. I'm not one to cause a fuss but I would speak to her about it and tell her i'm a bit uncomfortable with it. I don't think that would go down too well though. Probably cause an argument with her saying I shouldn't treat her like this just because of my ex cheating on me with a guy from work... :rolleyes:
also.. the not texting you back for hours is not good. shes either not that arsed about communicating with you or shes doing it as a form of control.
I don't know what she sent to him, that didn't come up.
Her snatching the phone away made things ten times worse, but to be honest, I would have still felt uncomfortable. The trouble is she always gets so defensive when things like this happen it makes it hard for me to brush it off and tell my sekf i'm just feeling a bit insecure.
I would say the text thing is probably a form of control now you mention it. She's the silent controlling type. She's not overtly bossy, but things definately have to go her way.
I don't know why she would get a feeling of control out of it but the other day I asked her a question (about 12:30- while she was on lunch at work) about the time and place for when we were going to meet that evening. I ended up texting her again at 6:30 to ask her again and then when I made a jokey comment about her never replying she seemed to get really pissed off and said that she was busy at work, then eating dinner and having a shower and made me feel like I was constantly pestering her. I felt like a right neurotic boyfriend! but is getting a little miffed about waiting 6 hours and still not getting a reply to a question really that bad?
I think that once trust has been broken, it makes people paranoid, and people look into things more. Minds go into overdrive about who he/she is texting, what they are saying...etc etc.
In my current relationship, its a different matter because theres alot of trust. I wouldnt even consider looking at his phone, it doesnt bother me how much he texts or who to, because i know he wouldnt do anything he's not supposed to, and he doesnt seem to have a problem with me and my mobile, so im guessing he feels the same way.
I don't think there is. I will reply to a text when I have time and when I can be bothered.
crikey. there's no hope for me then... hours? are you sure? what if you can't be arsed to twiddle with little buttons on a stupid little phone thing though?
Fucking hated it because I felt a bit weird about it, but she wanted to do the whole open relationship thing so I couldn't really complain.
End of the day, if they're the sort of person that's gonna cheat on you then they're likely to do it anyway, phone or no phone. If you trust that person then it shouldn't really be an issue.