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Hand jobs - how quick?
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Recently become adept at giving hand jobs - I'm sure they're not great, but the guy I give them to seems to like it, so I'm happy.
Only thing is, I'm never sure how fast I should be doing it. I know if I'm 'flying solo', I like it slow at first, building up and then finishing quite quickly with quite a bit of pressure, but I'm not sure if it's the same with guys. I know all men like different things but is there a general rule as to how quick you should be doing it?
My man thrusts and moans (assuming that's a good thing, although I do wonder whether it's just that I'm not doing it right and he's trying desperately to get into it! lol) when I give him a hand job, but after a couple of minutes he takes over. What should I be doing when he does this, because I've never made him come from giving him hand jobs and I'd really like to.
Advice please:D
Only thing is, I'm never sure how fast I should be doing it. I know if I'm 'flying solo', I like it slow at first, building up and then finishing quite quickly with quite a bit of pressure, but I'm not sure if it's the same with guys. I know all men like different things but is there a general rule as to how quick you should be doing it?
My man thrusts and moans (assuming that's a good thing, although I do wonder whether it's just that I'm not doing it right and he's trying desperately to get into it! lol) when I give him a hand job, but after a couple of minutes he takes over. What should I be doing when he does this, because I've never made him come from giving him hand jobs and I'd really like to.
Advice please:D
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Mmhm.
TbH I dont like really slow ones, I prefer mine at a speed. Its an added bonus when its lubricated. :yes:
On the internet I have seen something thats "how to give the perfect hand job", I suppose you could type it in google.
But yeah, it depends what your aim is as to how fast to go etc. If you just want to make 'im squirt then I would just go at it with a nice, firm (not tight!) grip and a wee bit of lube if possible. If it's as a precursor to other stuff then vary your speed, grip, and if you're up for it then get your gob round it, too :thumb:
What I would recommend to you (and would do myself in this kind of "what does he like?" situation) is either ask him during the act if he likes it like that, what he wants you to do etc. OR, the fun way which would be to go in for a spot of mutual masturbation. It can be incredibly erotic and intimate and if you're in any fit state to be observant you'll be able to see what gets him off (other than the sight of you, of course ).
My bf likes them so fast that it hurts my arms and exhausts me.
Or there's always TheSite's version - give the boy a hand
ETA: doh just seen randomgirl posted this above! you're deffo gonna have to read it now Alasia!
Oh and thanks for the link - never noticed that one
But then I guess it's the same with me; if he's playing with my clit and stuff I can get so far, but he can't actually tip me over the edge into orgasm - I have to do that bit myself.
Does anyone else have this problem?! lol.
yea, just be sure to speed up in the end and keep pumping when he cums already. like, speeding up until the first jet fires, then slow a bit down, but still go at it. be veerry slow/stop when nothing comes out anymore.
never slow down when he is about to cum, that will leave him blue-balled.
his balls go blue?! :eek:
yeah different guys like it differently, at a party once i was doing it at quite a speed, and he sed to slow down so i did, and he came within like a minute lol!! but he was very drunk.....
but my ex liked it fast, when i lost my virginity we had sex for a while, but then i had to stop i cudnt stand the pain/pressure any more, but he hadnt come......so he said "do u mind if i finish this off" and i laughed and sed go for it, and he wanked REALLY fast, and then came.....
so, to round off, different guys like it different ways, just ask him about it!
No man's balls ever get blue in a colour-sense.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=blue+ball
I guess they are exaggerating as I have never experienced "pain", but it's really uncomfortable.
Thing is how do I know if he's enjoying it?
Men fake it just like women do don't they, so there's really no way of telling? *is very paranoid* lol
I actually find the opposite I don't really masturbate much any more, but when I do I can never make myself come in the way that my boyfriend can. It isn't everytime, but when I do it's explosive, whereas when I'm playing with myself, it's more like 'ho hum, is that it?'.
It's like a dog, giving a cat a piggy-back ride onto a tree.
Just use lube, start slowly, but increase in speed and with the other hand caress his balls or something. It's not rocket science after all.
Hehe, that's my line!
But you have a point.
He texted me earlier and told me I leave him frustrated, because usually I start doing it, then get all shy and self conscious (and worried about pleasing him/doing it wrong), so I give up:eek:
yes please.
Erm, slow to start, find a rhythm that he likes then go with it. Ive had girls before who just seem to 'flop' it about and it was awful, but I didn't know what to say. Someone I was with who was really good just got to know how I liked it and was ridiculously good, like could grab me and have me cumming within a minute if she wanted. When you get to that stage though, you also wanna tease, like slow down just as he's about to cum because it's mean, but makes it so worthwhile in the end.
If he's moaning and stuff then that should be a good sign, right? But what if he's faking it?
ETA: then again, I guess if he wa faking it then he's trying to encourage me and I'm basically doing it right; otherwise he wouldn't want me to carry on, would he?! Omg I've confused myself now!
lol, you ask the internet how to do it, because you think you do something wrong. I mean, if you get slower and STOP AT ALL, how should he cum then :razz: Just put your hand around the shaft (4 fingers in one direction, thumb in the other), and make an up-down motion. use lube, don't be too slow (start with one time up and one time down each second, and at the end crank up to 120-180 strokes a minute.
cup his balls, caress his nipples or touch yourself with the other hand. Making the average man cum is easy.
I don't always give up...just sometimes. Then we have sex. So it's not like he doesn't get to cum at all! Honestly, don't know what he's complaining about :rolleyes: :razz:
I wouldn't be complaining if I were him. You seem to be doing your best to make sure you are satisfying him. As everyone has said, how he likes his handjob is an individual thing. Learn to watch is expressions and understand his body for clues as to whether he is enjoying it. The problem I have had in the past is that girls yank at it too hard.. LOL
He could also do the same with you.
Neither of you are mind readers, so I think there needs to be some more communication.
Remember;
An orgasm a day,
Keeps the blues away!