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Maybe there are fewer women "at the top" because there's a lower percentage of women who don't want kids?
Do you agree? Because much of the arguements here seems to boil down to that question.
I'm sorry but you can't ignore your previous posts and claim that
Especially because they are just as likely to screw me over (given my background) than they are a woman. Oppression (suppression is a better word) is everywhere.
I'm nominating MattLiverpool to go on BBC radio 4's 'The Moral Maze' and thrash this out with Melanie Phillips and Portillo - Huzzah!!!
To quote George Washington : " Government is not reason, it is not eloquence, it is force "
Similarly, politics is not "cooperation, consensus, mutual understanding, compassion, respect, consideration, tolerance", it is aggression and violence.
Those attributes are usually only used in deciding to whom that aggression and violence is directed.
Could you supply your definition of "power" ?
I`m getting an implied feeling (admittedly it`s mostly from others but occasionally from you) that power over others is a desirable thing.
If the goal of "feminism" is to remove that yoke of supposed male dominance, do you believe that a desire for dominance is the way to go ?
That appears to be like a slave yearning to be a slave master,instead of craving an abolition of slavery. I would have thought that abolition is the best way to achieve that feminist goal :chin:
Good luck to you, but I hope that doesn`t include any "slavemaster" role.
It's odd how in one sentence you claim that the hunter-gatherer instincts are still strong in our society, and in the very next you claim the exact opposite.
The hunter-gatherer instincts are for men to spread their seed far and wide, and for women to settle and rear young with the strongest male they can find. If you agree that this is still relevant then fine- and I know you do, because you've used it as justification for men sleeping around in the past. But you can't then argue the exact opposite of this in the very next sentence. Pick a stance and stick to it.
I think the fact that I have a strong and secure relationship with a woman who is my equal, and have had one for five years now, suggests otherwise:)
I liked a girl, she liked me, now we're together. I need some kind of strategy to get the most from this :chin:
I feel like I've missed out on something. I'm going to retreat to my secret man cave and plot every single move in this relationship, based upon how many gender acted thousands of years ago. Oh oh, I can draw diagrams! :hyper:
What's that.....my shadow! Quick, I need to throw rocks at it! Die shadow, die!
Now, to invent fire so that I can attract women to my cave and encourage them to take their clothes off.
Or, I could go on one of those websites, The Ladder Theory or similar, and have a 49 year old virgin, who still lives with his mother, educate me on attracting women through the fabricated and wholly unbelievable stories he invented while sitting in his pants, eating whotsits.
Yeah, that'd make my relationship much better.
You know, it feels strange to say this but I think I understand where you're coming from, in a way. I find it interesting, anyway.
I wonder, do you ever feel like you're overcomplicating things for yourself, though? I've played games and implemented plans of action with blokes before along the lines of making them feel like they're that "hunter" cliche because it's a win/win situation. While they aren't exactly along the lines of the strategies you seem to use but they're similar and I can understand why you employ them because I always got the exact result and dynamic of [perceived] power that I wanted (usually bringing them to their knees, not necessarily literally). But these days I feel like I really can't be arsed with that kind of thing. Maybe it's just laziness, or maybe I'm maturing like an expensive cheese
i can see where matt is coming from though. blame the media.
If you are more successful matt, I don't think it's due to the games, more despite them.
They don't. What the contention really boils down to is whether disproportionately male-dominated (or, indeed, female-dominated) spheres can be anything else, given psychological difference between men & women.