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Kinky crap on a one nighter
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Woke up this morning and god I hurt. I didn't do anything 'serious' last night but was getting flirty with a girl, and she was being too kinky, like slapping me and biting me. Anyway, was slightly drunk so went along with it . But dear god, in the morning now - how would you react if you brought someone back to yours and they started slapping you and asking you to call them goddess.
My head :crying: woke up this morning with a text from her calling me a bitch and if I 'behave' she'll play with me again. :nervous: It's just... not right! whatever happened to cuddles and kisses aye?
My point is anyway, since I'm not experienced, are people normally this extreme the first time or is it just me being unlucky lol? I'm not used to BDSM or whatever and I don't think I like it very much!
My head :crying: woke up this morning with a text from her calling me a bitch and if I 'behave' she'll play with me again. :nervous: It's just... not right! whatever happened to cuddles and kisses aye?
My point is anyway, since I'm not experienced, are people normally this extreme the first time or is it just me being unlucky lol? I'm not used to BDSM or whatever and I don't think I like it very much!
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You consider it unlucky, other people might like it. I don't think everyone is like that though.
If you don't like it and want to see her again then just tell her that's just not your bag and you'd enjoy being with her more if she toned it down a bit. Is she a mate or a randomer?
Poor thing :thumb: At least she didn't lie there like a sponge.
One of the dangers of one night stands...you can never tell what the fuck they might be into. Always watch out for the quiet ones!!!!
jus do what you feel comfortable with, and if you dont feel comfortable, give her a real indication you dont want to do it
otherwise she sounds like a lot of fun just where you meet her by the way
just have fun mate.
I suppose I'm just used to keeping it tame in the bedroom. Wouldn't mind seeing her again except I am a bit scared heh. She bit me really hard. I'm used to taking control so it's really weird whenever I do something for her to slap me and say 'did I say you could do that bitch?'. Then order me to do thingss. Do some people actually enjoy being bossed around??
Biting too hard is not sexy tbh :no:
Aww she obviously fancys herself as a bit of a dominatrix. Just point out to her that your not really into that sorta thing. If shes a nutter she'll just carry on, if shes half normal she'll stop/tone it down.
If that happened to me I'd probably piss myself laughing in front of her. Would depend on my mood though at the same time.
Ooh I'm getting horny.
Put it down to experience aye?
That was strange.
haha sorry. Think of it as an experience
Im turned on by a girl who is prepared to let all her inhibitions go and go for what turns her on, for that im happy to play along with whatever she wants. Her getting off is what makes me horny and reach a higher level of arousal rather than just going through the motions to stimulate myself with her seemingly uninterested. I would much rather that than she let me lead and pretend she was enjoying it or was just plain boring and never initiated anything.
If you go back for more or not its all experience, we should all try out everything as long as its safe. I've had some encounters which seemed crap at the time but now a few years down the line even the bad or plain weird ones are all life experiences which I wouldnt have wanted to miss out on.
Sounds like you had one of those cool moments you will recal for the rest of your days.
i'll bet you didn't object!!
At least she didn't get her school uniform out and demand a good spanking, eh?