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Girlfriend Cheated
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Hi, could you please help me out or give me some advice about my problem?
The other day I was at my girlfriends house and found out that she had cheated on me, now I have always said that if I ever found out that she had cheated on me then that would be it. But I don't feel that I could'nt leave her. I still love her but don't know if I can still trust her. She said she was sorry and that it wouldnt happen again but isnt that always the case? She also said that it only happend once but I have a harible feeling that she was going to or has done it more.
What do you think I should do?
Please help im lost.
Thanks
The other day I was at my girlfriends house and found out that she had cheated on me, now I have always said that if I ever found out that she had cheated on me then that would be it. But I don't feel that I could'nt leave her. I still love her but don't know if I can still trust her. She said she was sorry and that it wouldnt happen again but isnt that always the case? She also said that it only happend once but I have a harible feeling that she was going to or has done it more.
What do you think I should do?
Please help im lost.
Thanks
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hope you feel better soon
*hugs*
Was her infidelity a one off thing, or had she been seeing someone for a period of time? These are the things you will have to address together if you want to work through this.
I think you have to ask yourself if you don't want to walk away because you feel that you can both get through this, or if you are afraid of what will happen if you break up, there's a difference, and I wouldn't stay with someone for the sake of being with them, especially if there's little or no trust, it could lead to even more hurt than the infidelity itself.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll get through this whatever way you decide.
Personaly i dont think the drink is too blaim cuz i saw her first thing the next morning (he must have left just before i came because she phone be about 10 mins before i got off the bus to see where i was.
And if she loved you, she wouldn't have done it.
Im really not sure what to do.
i know its up to you at the end of the day but i think you will come out of this alot better off if you decide to end it. you will feel better with time
You could see this in two ways. One is that sadly, yes, she wants to break up with you and doesn't want to do it, so she's pushing you to see if you'll do it, hoping that sleeping with someone else will be the final straw.
Another is that she's insecure about the relationship, and thinks that you want to finish with her, and 'tests' you by sleeping with someone else to perhaps show you that she needs the attention etc.
To be very honest, neither of these outcomes are very nice, nor is the motivation, and by the way it sounds, neither of you seem very happy at this stage, including before you found out about her cheating. Sometimes relationships just run their course, and it's time to move on.
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she is just seeing how far she can get away with shit...thats what immature girls do they are on a power trip to see how far she could go and get away with it...dont forgive her....
my ex said to me if you really loved me then you would forgive me...i said B*tch if you loved me you wouldnt of cheated on me and lied to my face....and trust me on this a women like that can look you straight in the eye and lie to your face!
:yes:
Though I think the fact you found a used hat in your bed speaks volumes - that she doesn't give fuck. I'd have to say cherio :wave: after that.
dude to be honest you dont have self esteem to stay with a chick like that.
its easy to say move on because to be honest thats enough evidence to move on.
i found the condom under her desk not in the bed. looked like it had just been thrown down to the bin but missed.
she was crying about it most of the night and going on about how much she doesnt deserve me etc.
You might give her a second chance. I personally do know only one couple who made it after the girl cheated. Be on observe mode a lot. Is the a bit repellent to you? Does she really struggle to make it work? If you wouldn't show that it bothers you, would she behave differently?
but whatever you do, be prepared for a lot of pain.
Somehow you have to be a bit stricter I guess. Don't show her that you are a doormat and she'd get about with that everytime.
you love her yes, but you accepting this is almost like forgiving her...
if i were you,i would think 'sod her, if she hurts me this much she aint worth it anyway'