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You still don't get it. You don't understand it cos you're so high on your big horse, wanking away, cumming all sorts of shit about how a parent should act. There's a plethora of social, environmental and even genetic factors that have to be taken into account before dismissing this man, it's not something I agree with, but having lived under similar circumstances, I can understand it. End of story.
It sounds like her dad is worse when her mum goes away with her new boyfriend..... anyone think he might be having a hard time dealing with it himself?
Maybe your dad does have emotional problems but this is hardly anything to be majorly worried about, who hasnt had a right roasting off their parents!!?
To be honest now ballarina, this post and many of your others seem as tho you are trying to find someone to agree with something you already think to back up your own opinion. you are 16 or whatever now, its about time to start making your mind up about stuff. i know at 16 if i was pissed off with my parents they would know about it.
i wouldn't class your dads behaviour as violent unless your dad makes some serious marks on your or your bother's body tbh.
you also have to understand that everyone will loose their temper from time to time, and what you are explaning here IS normal. ~ there isn't a family anywhere that wouldn't have similar stuff happen. so, unless there is something more serious that you haven't said, then i'd really just forget about it.
I'd put money on that being right tbh. He's wound up at the idea, and has taken it out on the first irritant he's found - an empty bottle. As long as it isn't a regular occurance I wouldn't say it's a serious problem. Maybe have a word, just say you felt a bit frightened that he was going to do something silly, but I wouldn't turn a molehill intoa mountain.
I know it was only an empty bottle - it's more the fact that my dad was taking it out on someone rather than something. If they'd been having an argument or whatever then i could understand. But my brother was in his room on his computer and not doing anything.
My mum threw a milk carton at me this morning cause I'd drunk it all and not been out to buy more. Dont think it was violent, she just lost her temper a bit.
Have you never lost your temper ballerina?
True, but we can usually recognise when a roasting was justified and when it wasn't. In this case, I think Ballerina is perfectly right to say it wasn't, but as others have said, he was probably stressed and over-reacted because of how he is feeling in himself. This is the key thing that needs to be addressed it would seem.
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel Ballerina? I think opening up the lines of communication is really important as talking about things calmly might help you and your Dad to feel less stressed. If this doesn't work, then talking to a close family friend might be the best option - are you close to any of his friends as opposed to your mums? as they might be able to offer a better insight into his behaviour. You could explain to them that you want to make things better, but you're not sure how to go about it.
Alternatively, you could contact our relationships experts here at askTheSite who may well be able to offer some more useful insights into the situation.
Oh and don't ever feel bad/silly for asking people's opinions on this kind of situation - whether you're 16 or 26 it can be good to get your thoughts out there.
Take care
But I'd just gone too far and he couldn't take it, but it ultimately ended up being nothing.
i wish i got that!!
What I'm trying to say is that everyone has a breaking point. Everyone. When you have kids you don't become this calm, knowledgeable superperson, you are just the same person you have always been but a whole lot more frightened. Personally, in your situation I'd be inclined to cut your dad some slack.
Your dad is having it rough and yes, in hindsight he probably shouldn't have done what he did. However, I think that moving on and not dwelling on it is the best thing all round.