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It does seem that way.
he sounds like trouble, and your mum obviously trusts you to let you go out etc. but has drawn the line, i do worry that the teenage rebellion will kick in and get annoyed at us and her and see him anyway, which will just make things worse.
OH YEAH I AGREE YOUR MUM SUCKS
You alright?!
Yes.
I think she's probably right (and if she's not, tough shit).
How old is the boyfriend?
I felt like a short trip down memory lane so I'm back for a bit... have you been posting here ever since I left, or did you take a break too? Although seeing as how you've got nearly 12,000 posts, maybe I don't need to ask that. Long gone are the days when it was cool to retire once you hit 1,000!
Its like a drug!
From your point of view, you need to show your mother that you are mature enough to be trusted. I imagine when you first started going out with her permission, one of the things she would be worried about would be you sleeping around, not being responsible and generally hanging around with people like your boyfriend. You've done exactly what she didn't want you doing (whether she told you or not, I don't know, but I assume she thought at the time that you were mature enough to be responsible without her having to tell you).
Most of the people on here seem to be in agreement that you should lose the boyfriend off your own back anyway. But I'm sure he does have some good qualities, and so if you want to continue seeing him, then go along with your mother for now. Sneaking off to see him without her knowledge will only show her that you are still not mature enough to make your own decisions and judgements about such things, and will only tighten her resolve to make sure you don't see him. Put effort in to show your mother that you're responsible. Tell her that you are not happy with not being able to see him, and try to arrange some sort of compromise, such as being allowed to see him in your house, or at least to explain himself to your parents (bearing in mind that any guy who really cares about you will be willing to go along with this).
your mum is only looking out for you. she cares and tbh i think she has every right to be acting the way she is. you need to do some growing up if your going to be in an "adult" relationship.
I think it's Enrgish she is speaking.
They can only give you the tools & coping skills, the rest has to come from you and you're judgement. Just make sure you think about choices. I think a lot of parents think the kids don't have a mind of their own and in turn they make more bad judgements and stuff because they have been sorta wrapped in cotton wool.
Just had to say that
It's called respect.
:no: Disagree, my parents got it from me and didn't need to demand it :S
Encourage yes but not demand. Maybe i miss read the way you meant it.
*crossed fingers*
if you drink drive then you are as bad as your fuckwit of a boyfriend
If (heaven forbid) you ever have children, I hope you 'trust' them enough to go out with someone. I hope you never find out they're selfish, ungrateful little sods, who laugh behind your back when you tell them not to drink drive. I hope you don't give away your hard earned money, only to have your spawn moan about how it isn't enough to get drunk on.
As was said, the pair of you sound well suited. You'll both get far with that attitude.
i hope you learn.