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Falling in love with your friends
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I have been friends with a lad called Chris for quite a while now, and we get on really really well. But the thing is, I have fallen in love with him! I want to take things further, but I don't want it to affect our friendship if it goes wrong. How can I tell him how I'm feeling?
Katy xxx
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blessed be
This situation is exactly the same as the situation I was in three years ago - even the names are the same!!! I was best friends with my boyfriend Chris for 2 years before we got together! I fancied him for about a year and finally plucked up the courage to tell him. We had a long chat and decided that it wasn't the best thing to do - I thought it would be really uncomfortable, but it wasn't at all! Anyway time went by and we ended up realising we were made for each other and we've been together for three years now. If you want my advice, life's too short. Go for it... if he doesn't fancy you then at least you've tried, if you never hear from him again, it was never meant to be anyway! Good luck!
Katy xxx
U need 2 find out how your gf's sister feels about u .. then if she feels the same way... split up with your gf and leave things 2 settle down.
Then u can think abt getting 2gether with her sister. Dont rush anything else u will end up upsetting alot of ppl.
Good luck
xx
xxx Mia xxx
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I went out with my best mate simon earlier this year and it is the biggest mistake i have ever made. I haven't talked to him since febuary and the last thing he said to me was that I was a manipulative cow and that another v good friend of ours, who he thought i fancied, was a poof. They now aren't speaking either.
Is it really worth the risk?
Well this leaves an interesting question...
It would seem wrong to start dating your best friend but you can't just date someone you don't know, can you? You surely have to get to know them first in a friendship before you both wish to take things further?
I guess otherwise you wear a sign saying I want to date?
I reckon dating is really difficult... so many people judge you to quickly and don't give you a chance. I personally find that I can't even get girls to really talk to me... god know what I'm doing wrong!?!?
Just my 2p worth...
Ian :-)
[This message has been edited by DaN (edited 02-06-2000).]
We originally met off the net and I thought WOW when I saw him - after that he kept suprising me with how caring he is.
We've grown to be great friends but I wish we could turn back all the clocks in the world and start again - cos now we're gr8 friends, he doesn't want to spoil it! DAMN!
Should have tried ages ago!!!
Remember: Our friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
I live for my friends and each one is important in their own right - I can't personally risk ruining that friendship!
Maybe in April, it just happened. We started sleeping together. So, I don't if anyone can relate to this, but our friendship grew stronger after that but neither of us considered ourselves attached to eachother in any romantic way. We NEVER discuss it. We simply sleep together some nights. But during the day, we're just friends. It's kind of eerie, actually. But there's no tension. We're completely comfortable around eachother. We have tons in common and we've NEVER had an argument or disagreed about money or any of that. He's such a great person. The kind of person I could spend the rest of my life with. Sorry if this story is running long, I just have to get this out.
The situation at this moment is perfect. Every day is great at home. So what's my problem? I feel like I'm going to burst if I don't tell how I feel. I've changed my mind. I want to have a relationship now. Or at least I don't want this to end. But he's leaving to go on tour and I don't know if he's going to move back in when he returns. I have to tell him, I'm just terrified of scaring him off. To make matters more confusing, he's diplayed very subtle signs that he feels the same way. But then, the old conversation comes up about past heartbreak, old girlfriends. I'm absolutely paralyzed with fear. My mother and my sister think I'm off my rocker. HELP!!!!
Good luck, I hope it all works out for you[/B][/QUOTE]
I just hope everyone else has more luck than I do.
Seriously, it does help to talk about things, so thankyou.
Why can't it ever be simple? I should have known this would happen! Now things will never be the same!
I'm very hurt, but I'm also relieved. Now I know. I can get over it. I'm really, really trying not to turn cynical or feel like shit about myself. God! I would have done anything in the world for him!
Well, there's nothing left to do now but have a drink. How pathetic! Thanks for listening. -Jen
But not so happy for me...........
Ok I am really good m8s with this bloke called adam. He knows all this stuff bout me that like not even my best m8s know. He is such a sweetie to everyone and I get on with him really well.
When we first met "us " was on the cards but his m8 liked me and therefore wouldn't be with me. Since we have become closer and closer and I am so madly in love with him its not even funny anymore. Because I've recently been going through a hard time and he's the only one who knows about it he has been my support system. He's the only man Ive ever really trusted and I just hope (and I know that he would never intentionally) let me down. He promised he wouldn't anyway.
Baisiclly I wana be more than just friends with him but I duno whether he does or not. He said to a mutual friend back in April that we were just friends which is fine but then we have these "moments". The're kinda like the perfect moments for a first kiss.We've had loads of them. eg on weds we were @ his skool and i nicked something of this sideboard which he was on the otherside of. He leaned over put his arm around my waist and put his head againnst mine so that our noses were touching and just looked deep into my eyes for what seemed like ages. I thought he was guna kiss me but he didn't but i duno......it was weird the way he looked at me and I know if it had been anyone else I would have just gone for it but I really would just hate to mess things up with him because i really, really care for him.
What do u reckon I should do? Should I tell him and risk losing a friend or should I keep quiet and just let it eat at me?
P.S. Since my last posting, I stayed away from home for the entire weekend and when I got home my roommate was dying to tell me that he'd missed me and he didn't want it to end!!! He loves me! He just didn't want to talk about it when I was drunk. What a roller coaster life can be! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Men, Women and self-esteem.
Have you ever noticed
how hard it is
to befriend a member
of the opposite gender?
First they must realise
there is more here than lust
the lower their self-esteem
the more they mistrust.
How on earth can you like them
when they don't love themself?
You must have a motive
you keep to yourself.
Then next they realise
you are just a blind fool,
too stupid to see
that they are not cool.
Then many years later
they open their eyes
and suddenly realise
you weren't telling lies.
You really do like them
for who they are
no hidden agenda
to keep them afar.
As they learn they're worth knowing
Just for themself.
Their self-esteem rises
they come down off the shelf.
But they soon climb back up there
spirit still not free.
As they complain to you loudly
"So whats wrong with me"?
"Don't you think I'm attractive?
Am I not your kind?
Oh God I'm so ugly
with my huge behind"!