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Regret getting into a serious relationship when they were young?
My first serious relationship, i was 17. which to some is not that young but it lasted nearly 3 years and i feel like all those three years were wasted, it was a great age to be, i was finishing college and about to start uni
I could have enjoyed life alot more if i hadnt got into it. I feel like i missed out on a few years of self discovery
Ho hum! Nothing i can do about it now obviously, i think this is the reason im so keen to have fun these days and so distraught to not be a student any longer
My first serious relationship, i was 17. which to some is not that young but it lasted nearly 3 years and i feel like all those three years were wasted, it was a great age to be, i was finishing college and about to start uni
I could have enjoyed life alot more if i hadnt got into it. I feel like i missed out on a few years of self discovery
Ho hum! Nothing i can do about it now obviously, i think this is the reason im so keen to have fun these days and so distraught to not be a student any longer
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Im glad i was a late bloomer actually. My first serious relationship was the first i could really classify as a "boyfriend" if im being realistic.
But i still feel really young (im 21 now) and vunerable when it comes to relationships.
Wish i could go back to being 17 and never have gone into that relationship :yes:
do you feel like you missed out on part of your childhood / teenage-hood ?
i feel like i missed out on my late teens.
Well, just have to make the most of life now
I make the most of life now BECAUSE I am in a relationship :yes:
I was in a LTR from the age of 16 to 19 and then within 3 months of that ending i was in another one which lasted even longer, although it really shouldnt have in hindsight, although it brought me to where I am today, which i wouldnt change for the world.
Theres no point sitting there regretting your past for too long. Its not like your lifes about to be over and once youre in a relationship you cant discover yourself anymore.
Ive learnt more about myself and started accepting myself better in this relationship than I have ever before, out of relationships or in them.
That said, there's no point in regretting it, I suppose it at least taught us that relationships aren't the be-all and end-all, and that it can be better to be out of a relationship in terms of living the rest of your life. Or something. At least we're still young and able to have fun and move on from it, even if it is hard to shake off the "what might have beens" and "if onlys"...
Completely agree. Im really enjoying eing single at the moment, probably for the first time, because i realise ive got plenty of time for men when im older
Although, sods law is when im happy being single, mr perfect comes along :impissed:
i'm the opposite, i only had my first boyfriend when i was 19 (and a half!) and even though i said what i said above, i'm glad 'cause my attitude to relationships is when i get married i'm gonna (hopefully) be with the same person for the rest of my life so..
But, like briggi said, it's not worth regretting, you just get on with it.
:eek: and I thought it was bad enough that my mum had been with my dad for 21 years (which is half of her life!) and married for 19 years...
Two words can sum up my experience... : OH DEAR
I lost my virginity to him and he actually told me when I experienced an orgasm. Controlling is not the word..
Plenty of friends still like to remind me now how I apparently 'ditched' them two years ago despite me explaining he practically locked me in the flat. BLARGH.
I got into a serious relationship with my ex at 17 and I split up with him just before I was 20. He controlled me for 3 years. I lost alot of friends because of him. I missed out on so much in my first year of uni because I was so obsessed with our relationship. As harsh as this sounds, I wish I never met him. He made me miserable for years.
I had a serious'ish relationship before him and was with a guy for a year.
I wish I hadn't had any of these serious relationships to be honest, I do feel as though I've missed out on the fun of being a teenager.
Awww
I don't think it matters whether you experience "love" young or old. Its a matter of if it works or not. As some have shown you can have life lasting love starting at a young age, or not till your old. Its all about chemistry
Experience in love is experience, whether it be young or not. It works or it doesn't.
Dont think Id have changed it though, it was just who I was. I live/d for the safety + security + intimacy of a long term relationship rather than the excitement + the fun of being single and free. I'm too much a wimp heh