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how can i tell mum and dad that i don't want them to talk to me?
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Sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time at home at the moment. We have some information on TheSite that might be useful to you:
http://www.thesite.org/relationships/divorce/ http://www.thesite.org/relationships/families/parents_q_and_a_fighting_parents.html
all the best
Karla
I reckon this is probably the best course of action. Or... explain to them that you are getting hurt by being stuck in the middle and wud much prefer it if they just left you out of it. However, they mite feel that as their daughter you shud b giving them emotional support. If this happens, i think u shud explain to them that it is just as hard 4u as it is for them, and there are lots of councellors out there who are willing to listen to them.
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
good luck. let us know how it all goes.
whizzy xxx
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
Going back to personal experience, I guess I just took it from both of them for some of the time. i listened to mum give her reasons for leaving and I listened to dad moan on and on about what ur folks are on about: the future, the money etc. Maybe it was different cos I resent my mum's decision to leave, whereas you can see both sides of the story.
But in the end, when it get's too much, I just tune out and act disinterested. To walk away is rude, cos it is fairly serious stuff (sometimes anyway). if they don't take the tuning-out hint, then just say "sorry, i don't want anything to do with this. you and dad created this problem, don't expect me to help sort it out. call me when you make a decision that will affect me."
and they do, mostly now. hope this helps as well.
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