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I hate being alive...
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Why? What makes you feel like that? Is there something in your life that sparks this feeling off?
A single post like that isn't going to help me give you advice
I don't know. It's really weird. It's like I'm an alien or something. I don't seem to have anything in common with anyone. It just makes everything that little bit harder.
Or maybe it's the fact that women throw themselves at guys who act like 12 year old prepubescent twats. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
Maybe you aren't meeting the right sort of people. Like, think about what sort of people you wish to meet and then seek them out. You *must* have something in common with at least one of the 6 billion people on earth! I do know and appreciate that it is difficult, but unfortunately, that's the way it goes. Try and be pro-active about life
Then you are certainly going after the wrong sort of women.
Don't go looking for a girlfriend, it doesn't work like that. However, if you start meeting people you have things in common with, as I already suggested, tnen you may find someone you like / who appreciates you more than these sorts of women.
I know my advice probably sounds a little harsh but the best way to sort things out is to get yourself out of your rut and look on the positive side of things. Try and meet new people and get yourself sorted that way
I'm just really not impressed with life at all.
There must be atleast a few things you'd like. I dont know, erm..weightlifting, stamp collecting, photography, naturism, birdwatching, the list is endless.
Think about your childhood, what did you always want to do/be when you grew up, and try to get a little closer to that.
Finding a lady friend is not going to fix your problems, but it may just cause more heartache on both sides, because your problems might be a bit deeper than wanting a girlfriend.
You'll find that a lot of girls of a certain age like immature twats, but usually people grow out of that as they get older.
Your definitely going after the wrong girls by the sounds of things.
It's not even about getting a girlfriend anymore. It's about finding someone who actually gives a toss about me. :impissed:
On the interest side I don't really enjoy anything anymore or at least the interest doesn't last very long. And the less said about my childhood the better.
I just can't be bothered anymore...
They work for me. A decade of therapy did nothing.
And my sister, mother and grandmother.
Each person is different though. You never know what will work and what won't until you try.
I think you need to go back to your GP and/counsellor and discuss this with them.
They worked for me
BUT, placebos and therapy were almost as affective as drugs and therapy.
Here's a link, it's only wikipedia, but I guess its a start
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antidepressant#Controversy
There's a slight possibility I might be bi-polar but being health professionals they would of seen that, right?
Well, I spoke to my GP and he refered me to her for an assessment and things pretty much went from there. Basically, she talked with me about my problems but she didnt really offer any practical help.
She (after about 5 sessions) then refered me to a psychologist. He (again) talked to me about my problems and stuff but didn't really offer anything practical.
Only saw him about 3 times then he got me to go on this cognitive therapy course. Basically, it's a 4 week course that *tries* to teach you how to think positively and to challenge the assumptions you make.
But my problem isn't really how I think about myself its more about how I relate with others and how they treat me. It's pretty hard to challenge your assumptions when they keep turning out to be true. :impissed:
Sorry. Didn't mean to rant on. I was just following a train of thought...
I had that... I've been on AD's for 12 years, been in thearapy for 10 (minus the last 2 years) I've found that like most medications, your body grows immune to them. In my epxerience, and I'm not ashamed to share this, nor am I embaressed.
Alot of people will think this to be absolute crap, as I have been told many times before on here. Told I'm a bullshiter.
But anwyas, I've been getting various types of "help" for my depression and anxiety for over a decade. Since I was 8 years old to be factual. I've had years and years of therapy. I've had various doctors ranging from therapists/counclers to psychologist/psychictirsts/behavorilists and even your GP. After many sessions each and every one of them has told me that what I suffer is a purely physical disorder.
Depression is not very well known, in what causes it and all that stuff. There are various theros, but since its nearly impossible to prove any of them, none can be exact, but after over half a dozen people telling me that its a chemical disorder, I do believe that it is true.
I don't know what you experience, what your life has been like. I don't know if there are certian factors that make you feel the way you do. But in my experience, there is nothing.
You can discuss what is wrong here, or you can discuss what is wrong with you therapist or GP. If there is anything wrong. If there is not, don't give up on the medications. It can take years to find one that works right. And after that, they can wear out quickly. I was on one that I became immune to after 2 years. But in my experience, they do help. Alot.
Without them, I'm suicideal, I'm overaly emotional, I cry and bawl and scream from a paper cut, literally. With them, I'm normal.
I'm not saying thats how it is for you, but don't give up on them. Talk with your GP, your therapist and find all the options. Maybe it is something emotionlly wrong that can be fixed... maybe it is an imbalance that will only be helped by medications. By the right ones. Which is a completly trial and error method.
Most everybody on here (as I've said before, will say this is bullshit, I've alreay been harassed for this) But its there. Its that horrible not wanting to live can't even get out of bed feeling, a feeling you can't even describe as its so bad... and sometimes you just need to find what works. Just try. Try and fail, try and fail... try and learn. Try and find the right solution.
Nothing has made me feel more shit than this website when it comes to depression. Like I'm nothing more than a faker and a failure. People here will make you feel like your nothing, like your lying and like everythign anybody has told you is shit. But its not. From experience... theres things that work... because sometimes things can't be explained from tests they have available and therapy... theres thererois and I believe those therois are right. So fuck the people who tell you that you what your suffering from is bullshit. They know absoutly nothing. Nothing! They don't know. They havn't had years of experience to tell them. They're nothing but ignorant assholes.
Im so sorry thats been your experience manda. You dont deserve that at all
do you want to say anything about the bad experiences?