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Asking a girl if shes single pt2
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If anyone remembers my thread on asking a girl if she's single,
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=99692
I need a little more advice.
Ok, so now I know her name, and have a better idea of when she works (that's where I met her). Now I think I'm pretty close to getting to the point that either she tells me if she has a boyfriend, or I suggest we go for a walk along the beach and then if we get there, I ask her point blank.
What I need help with, is how to deal with things if she says she's not interested. Because she seem like such an amazing person, that I'd still prefer that we became friends, rather than nothing at all.
If I'm not making much sense, I'll clarify.
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=99692
I need a little more advice.
Ok, so now I know her name, and have a better idea of when she works (that's where I met her). Now I think I'm pretty close to getting to the point that either she tells me if she has a boyfriend, or I suggest we go for a walk along the beach and then if we get there, I ask her point blank.
What I need help with, is how to deal with things if she says she's not interested. Because she seem like such an amazing person, that I'd still prefer that we became friends, rather than nothing at all.
If I'm not making much sense, I'll clarify.
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yes - oh right wheres he from / what does he do / how do you know him / general conversation (not interegation as it reads lol)..
no - would you like to go out for a drink?
:~)
So if that is the case, would it be too weird to try and still develop a friendship, or better to just leave it on friendly terms.
Getting involved with someone who's involved is more hassle than its worth, what if he finds out? what if you fall for her and she never leaves him? and if something was to happen how could you garentee she wouldnt do the same to you?
From what you've said, you've done a lot of the work already. I wouldn't say you're proper in there yet, but you sound like there's a plan and you know what the story is.
Take a deep breath (don't make it obvious though haha) and ask what you need to ask, see what happens. Even if she custard pies you, then you've tried and you tried and you'll have better luck next time.
Just don't go into it thinking you'll get a knockback.
There's a good chance that if she's working today, I can 'bump' into her on her way to work. That way, its a bit more natural for us both (ie if I try and talk to her at work, that might be a bit weird).
I'll basically ask her if she is infact going to work (my opening line : ), then I'll start a conversation, and see when she's not working, and ask her out for that day.
Does that sound cool?
Only thing I'd say is try not to sound too rehearsed, just let it flow and see what comes of it :thumb:
I hope all goes well!
So yesterday I planned to accidently bump into her on her way to work, well I chickened out at the last minute when I saw her.
So today, I decided that she was so amazing, that if I didn't talk to her, I'd regret it the rest of my life. So same as yesterday, I planned to accidently bump into her.
Today, she was wearing different clothes, and I wasn't sure if it was her, but then she smiled, and I'd know that smile anywhere, it was her. So I ask her if she is on her way to work, and she said yes.
I asked her if it would be ok to walk her to work, she said yes, and we talked all the way there. She's the same age as me, we like similar music, and she just seemed genually nice. I'm not talking friend nice, or sister nice, but she just makes me feel so different. I've never felt this way before.
If anyone actually knew me here in real-life you'd know that I am the most shy person you'd meet, I mean 'anxiety disorder' shy. But it felt so right. I wish I could bottle up my feelings, and share them with the world.
My life is so good.
I originally tried to follow some advice from people that I know, and tried that whole chat-up/random chitchat thing, and it just wasn't me and it was awkward on both parties. So I tried to be myself, but still a bit casual (if you know what I mean) and it all seems to be working.
That made me smile lots and lots.