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erm quite easily, work out the money earnt over the period by both partners not including tax, and split it in half and there you go
they have what they have before the marriage, plus half of what they aqquired together over the marriage
why is that unfair
What if one partner has earned all the cash and the other has spent it all. It's never as simple as you assume.
yeh it takes that into account but leaving as you were before the marriage, plus what you contributed to the marriage 50:50
would stop disputes about gold diggers etc easily
beats a pre-nup which presumes youll break up, this doesnt say youll split up, this just says, when married you are one and things are split equally from the marriage, but from before that you are your own person
Enough to put anyone off the idea (institution, haha) of marriage for good. It makes me feel pretty sad, to be honest.
I thought things were earned as a couple and spent as a couple?
It's complicated when older people get married, but if your main concern is cash, why are you getting married? I don't follow. I'm thinking trophy wives. If you want to trophy, you need to polish it.
I guess it depends on how the two people see marriage though. If they agree beforehand with the ideal that you are on about, then fair enough to them, and they can't moan if it goes tits up and the rich partner ends up losing half their money. But I think there should also be the option to have a marriage based on any set of ideals that the couple might believe in. If that means pre-nups and both parties agree, then I don't see how anyone can begrudge them of it, including the courts if it goes tits up. I think that there seems to be a huge variety of ideas about what marriage is, and I don't see why the law can't cater for them, rather than imposing one model of marriage on everyone.
but if you were the judge what would you do
I was reading an article thats the same kind of issue though, except the genders were reversed. This woman had inherited something like £100,000 or something, got married, then got divorced, and she had to split the inheritence with him 50/50 even though she was single when she got that.
I agree that in some cases a lot should be awarded to the other party, but think a lot of the time in a marriage 50/50 split isnt the most fair split. And whether or not it's 10% of his income, £250,000 is still a heck of a lot of money to be paying out forever.