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I know this has probably been done a few times before, but I have a simple question and I want to know.
Do you think its okay for a 22 year old guy to go out with a 16 year old girl? is it different for girls? I'm 22 and I know I would personally never go out with a 16 year old boy! And I don't think any of my friends would either.
And, guys that are around that age, would you go out with a 16 year old?
Im genuinely curious, nothing to do with whats going on in my life, oh no :yeees:
Do you think its okay for a 22 year old guy to go out with a 16 year old girl? is it different for girls? I'm 22 and I know I would personally never go out with a 16 year old boy! And I don't think any of my friends would either.
And, guys that are around that age, would you go out with a 16 year old?
Im genuinely curious, nothing to do with whats going on in my life, oh no :yeees:
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Theres a 7 year difference between my guy and me and I've never thought twice about it. Except when I'll say something like, yeah, in highschool a couple years ago... then I make him and his friends feel old 16 and 22, imo is hardly a difference at all.
As you said though, being 20now, I couldn't imagine going out with a boy that young. I'm not into younger boys, never have been. Immature, mainly. Plus being older just doens't appeal to me.
I can't imagine having much in common with a 16 year old, plus they couldn't go to bars/pubs with me and would probably still live at home, which really puts me off a guy. And also would not have a car.
18, maybe, but I'd feel a bit strange. But it depends what stage they are in their life, some 18 year old guys are mature and work full time and have their own flat, but I'd probably be worried they would want to go out and see different girls while they were young.
i don't think it matters, she's over the age of consent and what not.
eta: i'm 21 now and don't think i'd go out with anyone younger than 18. i prefer them older!
I reckon it's more down to having similar interests and outlooks on life. You are more likely to be at different stages in your life which may cause problems, but age as a factor in itself isn't really an issue (unless it's in legal terms).
That's the clincher. Even a 16 year old lad who was "mature for his age" (a rarity, I'd imagine) would still be going through things like school/college stress, probably living at home and having a curfew and as bad as it will make me sound they're not exactly likely to have their own income. It would scare me to hell to go out with a fella who didn't even have a full, adult bank account and couldn't apply for a credit card. Not that I look for men who are thousands of pounds in debt or anything...
If they were 18+ I'd be much more likely to look at them as a potential partner, though they still wouldn't be my ideal as - same as lucifer - I prefer men to be older than me, or at least the same age. That said, of course, I never say never
How about a casual shag then? I think it may make me feel a bit dirty.
I knew I was old when a guy I met in a bar lied to me about his age because I was a few years older than him.
It's funny, when I was 15/16 I went out with guys who were 20 and saw nothing wrong with it, but now I'd laugh at a guy my age going out with someone that young.
Partly maturaty, although that is genralising a bit, its alot to do with going out and stuff as well though, It would seem weird having a gf who couldnt get into clubs / bars etc...
Hmm, I suppose if it was that casual then you may well never find out... I agree that it'd probably make me feel dirty, and not in a good way
I have male friends who have had younger girlfriends which is fair enough and none of my business, but if we all go out together as a group those bitches make me feel extremely old :impissed:
Of course, all of the judgements I'm making about it depend on pretty huge generalisations, but I don't think I would get what I need (in any respect) out of a relationship with a 16 year old... I guess it depends totally on the individual people and cirumstances eh.
Anywho. Age difference isn't an issue with me, though I've never been in a relationship with much of a gap. However, I feel that the most maturing is done between 15-18. I've changed so much over these years. Of course I'm still changing, but I think these years are crucial to a person's development and such like. So, when a 16 year old is with a 22 year old, I think it has be to taken into consideration that the 16 year old (whether male or female) is still learning about the world. So long as the 22 year old in the relationship is supportive of that, then I don't see a problem
I think a lot of girls like older blokes because of material things like cars and having their own flat and stuff. I tend to avoid gold-diggers like that, in all honesty. Not really that common once you get over 20, but the shallowness of teenage lassies I know is unreal.
Open your legs and you get free taxi rides everywhere, woohoo!
My lower limit is 16, and my upper limit is probably 35 or somethin.
it would be a bit strange going out with someone of just 16 but it wont matter so much in a few years.
I'll stick to twenty somethings thanks.
thats if you could give them a good seeing to, they'd have to be in bed early, they'd have school the next day, no good doing PE if you hurt them to the point so they couldnt walk straight in the morning
on another note, someone in recent past did fancy, and always thought i was 23/24, possibly even going on 25
they were mortified for some reason when they found out im still 20, going on 21
lady in question was 22
So I guess it totally depends on the people, I was quite mature I guess and he was sorta immature for 22 (not in a bad way at all though). But you could get a 17 and 22 year old who are in completely different worlds, and of course that probably wouldn't work. So yeah, aslong as the girls over 16, it's down to the individual what age gap is too much.
See, now this is the kind of answer I wanted to see! haha.
Nah really, I appreciate everyones views. I'm just trying my best to figure out why the boy i liked/liked me now prefers the company of a 16 year old whos still at school. Maybe shes the most amazing girl in the world or something, i dunno. Annoying though :-/
My mate's cousin is 14 and has a 20 year old boyfriend, I think that's sick personally, the same with 30 year old men who go out with 16 year old girls...
Just don't get it.