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How important are looks?
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How important is appearance when it comes to fancying someone? Looks are the first thing that attracts someone and I guess if you haven't got the right look then you're never gonna attract anyone.
I would admit that I'm not that good-looking and I've never had a g/f but I'm fed up with people saying its all about "personality".
I would admit that I'm not that good-looking and I've never had a g/f but I'm fed up with people saying its all about "personality".
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I know it sounds like a cliche but everyones gorgeous to someone.
You could be dating the hottest guy/girl in the world, but he/she's a dick/bitch. You could be dating the best personality ever, but also the ugliest person.
I don't think I'm pretty. I'm overweight. I have my days where I think I look pretty. But my boyfriend thinks I'm gorgeous/cute/sexy/beautiful all the time.
My friends don't think that Rich is attractive. However, all my net friends think he is a hot piece of ass, and he is so sexy to me. He fits my criteria of a hot guy. But he has a great personality too.
It all comes down to the individual
Hardly blessed when it comes to looks. Ask the girls on this site whether they fancy him, and the answer would be a unanimous no. However, put them in a trendy wine bar, and get Mick Hucknall to approach them and it'll be a lot different. Their first thought would be "wow, it's Mick Hucknall, he's famous." This would be shortly followed by "wow, he can get any girl he wants, yet he's come to talk to me. That makes me feel so special." So they'd be willing to get into a conversation with him based on that. This is when his lizard-like charms come into play. If it turns out he's a twat, she won't want to know. If he's really charming and funny, she'll be willing to look past the fact that his face looks like it's been dipped in acid.
Basically, looks are important yes, not the be all and end all. It's not all about personality either. Ugly people have fuck all chance of pulling usually, no matter how down to earth they are.
True but it does matter. Someone who's just a great person is usually seen as just a friend by the opposite sex, never usually a potential partner.
Is he boot ugly though? I mean, an average looking guy with the right personality can get the super hot girls everytime. Fat mingers won't, it sounds harsh but it's true.
i went on a couple of 'dates' a while back with a guy i met whilst clubbing (i was very drunk, didnt really remember what he looked like but went out with him anyway)
we got on reeeally really well and we had tons in common.. BUT i just was not attracted to him AT ALL. if i had to form a relationship with that guy based solely on personality i would have done, but there was nothing looks wise that attracted me to him which i personally find quite important.
the person doesnt have to be good looking per say, but.. there has to be SOMETHING about them that draws me to them in some way.. if that makes sense
I agree with you. The problem I've got is that its my looks that probably put girls off before they can get to know my personality, so I never get a chance to impress. As for "inner beauty" ...................
Yeah but he's also ginger.
No win there.
I'm not attractive and I've had partners in the past.
I think it's more about confidense and spark. I've been attracted to people that my mates don't think are very good looking, but I've liked them because they're passionate, or funny or smart.
A quote from the Truth About Cats and Dogs
Maybe you should use your time being single discovering yourself and finding something more to life than having a significant other (no offense, but you do seem down).
Its a good job not everyone has the same idea of physically attractive though or we`d all be going after the same people.
I love that film.
Damn, why do I like all these girly films? It's a good job I like action/sci-fi/horror films too or I'd be worried.
I couldn't have a relationship with someone who wasn't physically attractive in my eyes; personality isn't enough on it's own.
Ilora x
I dunno, I hate girly films but love that.
But, you cant tell a persons personality straight away, whereas you can tell what they look like.
and im a goon
I agree with MoonRat. How old are you? I mean if you're only 18 with never a date, there are many people out there like that. You need to either show us a picture of how 'ugly' you really are, or get more confidence in yourself :yes:
nah, i noticed your good looking straight away
*waits for MrG's head to inflate...*