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Sound like you've had a bad experience honey
The way you take care of yourself nothing to do with love or beauty.
You can be pretty witout wearing any make-up or others.
Some men are shallow and do not recognise beauty without any make-up.
But imo what is more important is what a woman look naturally and not how she look with makeup on.
Oh my SCC your boyfriend is so cute! :yes:
Con's - Having to change yourself
Why do you have to change yourself?
Cons - Not being able to shag all the other hot girls! hehehe, at least I'm honest.
Edit - I also would like to say I agree with both sides of the beauty argument. As relationships go on you do get more relaxed, and I think my girlfriend looks gorgeous first thing in the morning and with or without makeup on but she ALWAYS makes an effort and is always kept shaved/clean etc! lol
To put it in context though her skin went bad lately, so she keeps her make up off sometimes to let the air get to it if she feels like she needs to, she'll always be like "oh my god I can't believe I let you see me without makeup" etc but I'm glad she knows I'm the type of guy that doesn't give a shit because I love her anyway!
CONS: getting into a rut/sex becoming stale[/QUOTE]
cons: getting into a rut
Sex, the feeling of being with someone and someone you can hang out with anytime
Cons:
Having to put up with mood swings and general irrationality once a month...
Having to find the right balance between mates and girlfriend. (
Cons: You have less time for your friends
Cons: Having to be less selfish (can you tell I embrace singledom)
I think everybody has to make changes to themselves to suit their partner... Examples?
- Somebody who is heavily in to BDSM has to tone it down for a vanilla partner
- Somebody who loves freedom has to tone it down
- You have to dress up/wear makeup ect
It's about consideration for your partner... I am terrified of falling for somebody who doesn't let me be me... C'mon... You haven't made little changes for your partner in the past?
Ok, maybe I have a pessimistic view about relationships, but the next person who tells me to wear a skirt gets a cracked jaw.
Yes I kind of agreed with you thats why I asked. I have always been very independent and often that has been the downfall of my relationships. For example I always get a late train from a nearby city when I visit my friend, its gets in to my town at 2.45 am. I once dated a guy who would refrain from drinking that night so he could meet me at the station and take me to my door...all very sweet but I had coped getting a taxi for the three years before I met him and I really resented it! I resent having to change and can be a bit mardy about it, its a stubborn thing really. I have a pessimistic view of relationships too...maybe we should start a club.
I agree on the independence matter, or when people assume you can't do something or be independent because you happen to have a vagina. I love my independence, my freedom, hence I'm single.
I'm sure there are people out there who are accepting of us.
It's just ... they were MY jaffa cakes and ... no it's too painful :crying:
Same here.
On one hand i wouldn't mind a relationship, but then at this point in my life i can't be fucked. I don't like being told i have to see people, spend time with people. I like to come an go as i please.
cons: dunno really the only relationship i've had was really good! i guess when it ends.
Yes, I am bitter.
Will you share Steph with me, too?
ETA: I think that might be the first time someone other than me has used my real name on here, it looked weird for a sec!
I'll share Steph but I've run out of haribo lips and fangs, you will need to bring your own, ok?
(edit: oh dear lord that's 5000 posts.)
I love your av by the way! :flirt:
Con: vulnerable to being hurt..
Con: Knowing that someday it'll probably end
Con: having to give explanations of things...
That con is very true, i was surprised when i learnt that i couldnt just storm off and sulk til I felt better, then return and expect him to be ok with that.
Pro: Not having to cook every night
Con: Having to eat his cooking!
Con's : getting hurt.
Ditto
I'm in a relationship at the moment but i can feel myself starting to feel slightly trapped as it's been a full on three months and i feel a little like i'm losing my own indentity.
con: its hard work...
you do have to work hard to keep it exciting - while also enjoying the comfortable parts
everyone else is off the market