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She won't accept it though. I'm just getting worried, but don't want it to seem as if I'm sticking my oar in type-thing.
I would say probably and is in denial but i am no professional.
there can be a huge difference between problem drinking ...that can actualy go on for years and even a lifetime ...and alcoholism.
Yeah, I appreciate I'm not going to get proffessional help, but I can't see her wanting to go to the Dr's or similar on her own accord, don't know where I stand with it now. I want to support her, but if she can't say tht she has one, it's dificult.
i think everyone agrees that one of the symptoms ...one of the first and most difficult symptoms to deal with ...especialy for an alcoholic is a little thing called denial.
their own brain mind ...goes into a process of denial.
that can be one seriously bad side effect for an individual to develop from what is marketed ...as a soft drug.
physical mental addiction ...emotional and spiritual in some circles is alcoholism.
rich and poor alike suffer it ...as well the intelectual and the fool.
very nasty disease.
problem drinking.
i have a mate who i have refused to ever drink with again ...as have people across the north west of england and most of wales ...seriously.
i havent had a drink with him for five years or more.
i see him as being alergic to alcohol.
every time he ingests the stuff ...he gets louder ...starts laughing and enjoying himself ...already ...it's looking like trouble.
we can see it coming ...he can't ...and he'll drink till it is impossible to have one in his hand for whatever reason that may be.
he spends the next week a grovelling apologetic wreck of a man ...he;ll work hard all week at his light engineering buisness.
very honest and very capapble man.
he's becoming a lonely and isolated figure over the last five years.
It depends. As debated in the other thread, there's differences. Some people may need a drink everyday as a way of coping with their problems, they'll get used to this as a way of coping. They'll get themselves into a routine and it'll get to the stage where they'll even be afraid to go a day without drinking because they don't know what they might face. Sad but true.
As for physical addiction, I asked bong this once and he said about 10 years of daily drinking for this to happen. So I think your mates a long way of that. Physical addiction is particularly nasty, if you just decide to quit and don't do it properly you'll die. Mad stuff.
the bar lifestyle could be and i'd put money on it ... the attraction.
but has to be fueled on alcohol ...even if sometimes and maybe even fairly often ...she doesn't crawl home.
this lifestyle has to be funded ...thats where a problem often usualy appears but ...rather than spend less to ease the problem?
a problem in a brain ...that goes into an act od denial ...what problem?
money then ...that should be going on rent or laundry or food even ...think about that ...problems are surfacing ...and your still going to the pub and would even spend ...the food budget or part of it ...on going to the pub.
your drug before your health and financial well being ...is a problem.
another problem that soon fo;;ows are relationship ones ...notice the plural ...alcohol is the fuel that keeps the problems growing ... and even multiplying. drink tea instead ...and all the problems generaly get resolved.
another problem with addiction and drink drug related problems ...the person with the problem becomes a controlling factor in other peoples lives.
other people end up sitting in the AnE ward listening to someone throwing up and sobbing ...other people ...you ...a source of funding ...your kindness is actualy helping toward the funding of what can well be the start of a destructive lifestyle ...and all without the ism itself.
her bad choices now ...will maybe not control but certainly ...effect things in your relationship .from now on ...and get bigger...
so she is deffinately not maybe ...a problem drinker ...it's effecting not only her life now.
Thankyou for your advice. It is very appreciated.
Yes, I do care very much. I wouldn't've posted otherwise. Part of me still thinks I shouldn't've tbh.
if not ...you might now at least be able to look at something with something of a wider view.
caring and sharing and all that bollox ...trouble is ...it often works!
nature of the place i spose.