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Well I'll admit that good looks can get you horney, but getting to know someone and then falling in love must be different right?
Exactly.
When someone says "attractive" to you, you think looks. But really, attraction is when something catches your eye. In the case of getting a boy/girlfriend then people do tend to go for physical looks, which is a shame because a relationship is supposed to be about knowing each other and being friends as well as anything else. That's why - laugh as you may - blind dates and speed dating are so potentially effective, and generally more fair.
A job interviewer for example, would be looking for charisma, intelligence, dedication, loyalty, skills.. presentation wouldn't be the key "skill" on their list. And if it was, then I personally don't think it'd be worth working for such shallow people anyway.
Because I wear glasses, I often get marked down in my dance competitions and am openly told by judges and other dancers that that's the reason, as they don't "look the part"; other friends of mine in the business are told the same. But personally, I'd rather get big, bold glasses and persevere success with them than give up and get contacts. Maybe that's just my personality, but I think - as I said before - self confidence is the most attractive thing there is. It does work too - one of my friends who wears glasses in competition decided to do the same as me and get newer, bolder glasses and in our last competition, I came 2nd and she came 4th - better than either of us have done in the past. The fact we were making a statement gave us more confidence and determination, which did our dancing the world of good.
Looks really aren't everything and sensible people know that. The day the world favours people for sheer looks and nothing else, I'm moving to another planet where only aliens roam.
Sorry my posts are so long by the way, I just get right into conversation and can't shut up lol.
In fairness, it's OK for you to say all this because looking at your my space you are actually hot, and the glasses just get the secretary thing going on lol
Its my eternal dilemma, im fugly and have no confidence, but if i was good looking i wouldnt care what people think of me and i would basically do what i like rather than being completely self concious.
I also think that it is possible to like someone purely for their personality, but attractiveness obviously is going to attract people in the first place. Normally the people i end up going for didnt stun me with their amazing looks on first glance, but as i get to know them i fall for the way they look too. Hard to explain. I think that if you can love a persons personality then its possible to love their looks too even if you didnt originally like them much.
Well thank you lol, but I've grown up with people calling me ugly all my life, which, to be fair, could explain why I'm against people favouring looks alone.
When I said earlier that I think physical attraction is one of life's big lies, I said it because a beautiful person, could have a contrasting personality. Equally, a person considered ugly, could have a beautiful personality. Physical attraction is one of life's tricks which is important to look past.
I think everyone who's commented here have made very good points however, and personally think that the answer to this topic's question is a matter of opinion anyway. And so practically unanswerable. An attractive person may get a lot of attention, but may miss a different quality that another would have. When it comes to being in love though, love is blind and therefore, once in love, looks really mean nothing.
:yes: too true. And because TheSite has an article for everything
Most of the jobs I've been interviewed for have been offered to me, although I'm sure that's got sod all to do with what I look like.
Love life (or lack of), however, is a disaster.
People do judge on looks though - and i have noticed those judgements often hold to be true.
Ilora x
Some people have "evil" good looks.
Ilora x
I dunno, some people are attractive but they look sort of sinister/evil. I really can't explain it.
You make a good point, and it is very possible for employers to make judgement on qualities like those, however I personally think job appliers (is that the correct term for someone who applies for a job? I'm not thinking right today lol) would be chosen over their factual qualities such as their qualifications and charisma over subconcious assumptions of trust relating to looks alone.
Also, there's a subconcious degree of jealousy involved that could go against more attractive people. If the employer was the same sex for example, and found the person whom they were interviewing more attractive than themselves, they may take an immediate dislike to them without even realising it.
People do sometimes attribute "good" personality traits to good looking people, but what does good looking mean exactly?
Confidence gets you everywhere, not looks.
But symmetrical isn't that nice looking. I remember doing the experiments in science class that showed you perfectly symmetrical faces and they all looked outrageously weird.
But then again when you need glasses special made because one eye sits 2 inches lower than the other, thats not too hot either
but if you're meaning how important is it to look like some page 3 model, my answer is not very, just so long as your not really ugly or anything. average - there is nothing wrong with that and as for getting jobs and everything, its important to make a good first impression, but thats all its about.
Yes everybody hates munters.
The good looking rule over the ugly.
Different for everyone I guess.
Totally agreed here.