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I often look at people in clubs, sometimes individuals look at me back, it doesn't bother me. If a guy makes suggestive comments I just politely decline.
Mabe ya should be less paranoid.
as if, must be really intimidating for you.
There's a big difference between someone giving you a quick look and someone staring at you every time you glance over. I can tell the difference.
so serously going up and saying "hey" works?
I have to say, the olde rI have gotten, the more I have notice dthe staring guys. Ones that stand and stare. I dont do that, I just look occassionally, se if I can catch a girls eye line, see a smile or something.
You were lucky, bouncers in leeds can be strict.
My tip is never wear Rockport shoes or brown shoes coz you won't get in.
There's also the issue of if you walk all the way across the room just to talk to her, you just end up looking like a guy on the pull, rather than someone who's just out having fun. Plus if you get rejected, you've then got to walk all the way back in front of everyone (possibly another girl who you might have been interested, who won't really want to know that she's actually number 5 that you've tried to pull that night).
Only really weird/minging/dodgy guys stare. I had to just get up and leave a club a few weeks ago because this fat old man was staring at me for ages, and started imitating me and stuff. I feel really vulnerable in these kind of situations.
Eww!
if a girl caught my eye, and smiled, giving some encouragement then I would go and talk to her for definate. I just need that little hint that if I did do that, she wouldn't slap me or laugh at me or summat.
last time I went out I did catch a girls eye and saw her smile but wasnt sure if it was at me so waited for another but it didnt happen and she left...
you also get girls who are all fine and seem single and then pull out a mobile and are staring into it for ages so no idea if they are single or not and you don't wanna interupt them if its important or something.
Maybe that's where I'm going wrong! I probably just need to perfect my smiling! :P
make it clear!!! A lasting smile and the guy is all yours!
Though one time I did get a girl giving me a lasting smile and I indictaed aif she wnate dto dance, she said no and incidcted if she wnated a drink and she had one, and I wa sleaving at the time so I didnt do anything, figuring it was rejection but maybe it wasn't.. I don't know.
do you have to make convo before your all kissing away on the dance floor??
coz I have seen various times, girls and guys not even talking and then suddenly its tongues in each others throats on the dance floor.
Right! Next time I'm out, I'll make sure that this is tried and tested. Heheh.
If this is where I've been going wrong...then dammit! I've missed out on a lot of hott opportunities.
I don't dig the kissing on the dancefloor thing to be honest. I've been dancing and a guy has come over and been like: Hey, then all over me. I mean, I can deal with dancing with a guy, maybe even a bit of grinding. But kissing...euch... Not for me.
But yes, it does and can happen. However, if it fails (ie, the girl isn't drunk enough) you might end up with a nice big SLAP!
the answer to that Q depends on a lot of variables.
if i was 17 and drunk i'd say no, just come up to me when i'm dancing and i'd probably get off with you.
but at my age now i'd say no chance mate. i'd laugh in your face.
it totally depends on the girl, her age, how drunk she is etc.
Yeah, as the others have said, its all about confidence...
You cant spend the night trying to make out weather a girl is giving you the come on or not... just go for it... if she says no, or acts cold then be polite and walk away... at the end of the day you have nothing to lose...
I used to be really shy and would have to get smiles off someone all night, then in the last 5 mins I would go over, but its still and shows no self confidence...
You say about girls doing it... I dunno if its your area... I have had girls come up to me a few times in the past, its very flattering imo... and you just have to remeber if you go up to them, even if they arnt interested, they will probably still be flattered!
p.s woooooah, you said you went to Oceana... isnt the one in Kingston is it?
Yeah the one here is pretty good, very big! Easy to get lost though...
I dunno if they are all the same, but this one is split into loads of different sections with bars, (Aspin, Tokyo etc) Then there is a big 2 floor cheese room... then finally the Ball room (Main room) which is like a Huge converted theatre... (Which it actually is... kinda...)
i think its an alright place but during the week its full of 1st years and at the weekend its full of scallies.
Makes me feel old!!
At the weekends its good though, over 21's... I prefer over 21 places now, tent to get less nob ends in them! (No offence to any under 21 year olds by the way!! :thumb: )
Must be a pain then...
Alot of the big clubs round me are becoming over 21's at the weekend... or at least on Sat, then just over 18's on friday..
I tend to go into London more now days though, much better and bigger clubs and it only takes 30 mins or so by tube to get to anywhere decent!
I go to local clubs if I go out during the week... which I got to stop doing cos it really fucks me up for work! oh well... saying that im off out clubbing tomorrow night! :yippe:
Goes the other way round once you start working... and gets far more expencive :crying:
I miss being a student!!
So you have to talk them, go up and start talking. Right. But the music is so loud , I can't hear a word they are saying, so they will ask me a question or summat and I'll just be staring blankly or saying yes to a question that doesn't need a yes.
So the kissing ont he dance floor doesn't work with you guys, but I have seen it loads in clubs myself.
arrgghh so confusing!!
Ok... I think your biggest problem is that you need to CHILL OUT!! :thumb:
If your that worried about it on the night then people will see it a mile off...
As for the just walking up and pulling a girl on the dance floor... that will work if you genrally go for younger girls, to be honest, I wouldnt bother.
If you see someone you like, try to make eye contact, smile.. if she smiles back then go over... introduce yourself and take it from there...
As for noise... just make sure you lean in when she speaks, It can make things a bit more intermit, but dont get right in her face or anything...
Good luck mate!