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Guys eyeing you up? Guys, girls...
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I've noticed a few times whilst in a club with a lot of gay blokes there, sometimes there are one or two stood on the dance floor just staring at me! It is a bit freaky; I don't mind gay people at all, but come on, even if I was gay I wouldn't be attracted to someone standing there like some kind of stalker...have any other blokes (gay or straight) experienced this?
I was also wondering if that's what it's like for girls sometimes? Do a lot of blokes just stand there and stare at you? I personally find it quite intimidating sometimes (especially if it's a 6'5'' guy with his top off and built like Arnie) and I can imagine it might be for a girl too? I will go up to a girl and talk to her, or at least give her a smile from a distance, not just stare blankly at them! What do you think?
I was also wondering if that's what it's like for girls sometimes? Do a lot of blokes just stand there and stare at you? I personally find it quite intimidating sometimes (especially if it's a 6'5'' guy with his top off and built like Arnie) and I can imagine it might be for a girl too? I will go up to a girl and talk to her, or at least give her a smile from a distance, not just stare blankly at them! What do you think?
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annoying when you're in a club and they'll stand eyeing you up but not do anything about it. this is where i take the initiative! once a lad was eyeing me up all night - it came to the end of the night and he'd still not spoken to me. as i was leaving, he ran after me and asked for my number. :yeees:
i don't follow, where exactly did you take the initiative then.....?
the little story i put at the end was nothing to do with me saying this is where i take the initiative.
sorry for not paragraphing my response properly.
:rolleyes:
do ladies ever really make a first definitive move when they are out in a club or indeed wherever?
I have seen the odd smile but thats it.
I don't mind girls making the first move if you're on the dance floor or when they get their friends to get you to approach them or something. But I can't stand it when they try and drag you on the dance floor, especially if they try and take your drink off you so you can dance with them. :mad:
Better that than them drinking your drink, which I've seen an awful lot of recently... Strange.
A man/men staring usually makes me feel incredibly self-conscious, I'd much prefer they came over but I can understand why they wouldn't want to. Unfortunately it's always the slightly deranged/pissed/geriatric ones that come over, which is quite disappointing.
Girls sometimes do make the first iniciative by looking over. Or occasionally you get them or a mate coming over asking for your number- there usually the ugly ones.
its wack coz I see hot girls in clubs and I dont go over. I don't stare either, I do look, but casually. Dance my thing, dance with friends, then give glances to see if they are looking at me.
I never seen or experinced a girl who didnt knwo the guy beforehand going up and asking him for a dance.
Sometimes if I am dancing and there is a girl I liek there I will dance near but not touch her, but not gridning her near, just near and see if she appracohes me that way.
Last time I went out there was a girl there and I was dancing near her and I looked and I saw her look but never more then a fleeting glance. She pulled some boke who just came up behind her then went off. Talking to my friend the next day, he reckoned she was looking at me as if she wanted me to dance and stuff but I didn't see it and she thought probably I was interested in her mate, which to be fair I was,a s they were both attractive although looked compeltely different.
Once the girl pulled the guy, I actually spoke to her mate but she left with not much word so nothing there
fancies a bit of young me thinks!
I have , for a long time, tried doing the "silent, handsome, mysterious stranger" thing, but I don't seem to get the swooning women like you see in movies and tv.
Does the tall, dark, mysterious stranger thing work?
Interestingly, I've found the least effort I've put into my appearance before I go out, the more attention I get from girls. I'm talking wearing the clothes I've been wearing all day travelling and stuff like that. Then I'm too self concious to pull any of them because I smell. Wierd. Probably just because I'm more relaxed, and not actually on the pull as such.
trouble is, casual look doesn't get into that many clubs in leeds and you don't wana piss of the bouncers.
God knows. He looked incredibly shifty for an admirer though.
On the flip side a girl leered openly at me when I was at a club recently which was a nice boost to the self confidence.
Haha. What did she do?
I was just leaving, and I had noticed her earlier and as I walked past she did the obvious eyeing me up and down motion, you know, her eyes sort of narrowed a bit, bedroom eyes sort of look. Oh well.