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hi all,
As alot of you know, i split up with my wife over 6months ago after found out she was having an affair. But kind of knew for a while, just with not proof. SO yes i was hurt but not surpised.
Well i've now been seeing someone else for a month this saturday. And was talking to her for a month before we even met up. Well tonight she asked me over to watch a film with her. While there she said that her flat mate want me to come over for dinner on monday (Niccie, me, flatmate, flatmates bf). Apart from telling me that and how her job interview went, she hardly spoke two words to me. Tried to get her to talk (not while film was on, as she said she'd really wanted to see this film) but she didn't seem interested.
We've been getting on really well. but due to work (both hers and mine), evening classess, weekly get togethers with friends, only get to see each other twice a week. We've not had sex or done anything sexual as she asked if we can wait as her ex screwed with her head on that issue. Told her i'm happy to wait till shes ready (and i am, as dont want to rush things).
Not sure what i'm posting for, just confused really and need to get it off my chest.
As alot of you know, i split up with my wife over 6months ago after found out she was having an affair. But kind of knew for a while, just with not proof. SO yes i was hurt but not surpised.
Well i've now been seeing someone else for a month this saturday. And was talking to her for a month before we even met up. Well tonight she asked me over to watch a film with her. While there she said that her flat mate want me to come over for dinner on monday (Niccie, me, flatmate, flatmates bf). Apart from telling me that and how her job interview went, she hardly spoke two words to me. Tried to get her to talk (not while film was on, as she said she'd really wanted to see this film) but she didn't seem interested.
We've been getting on really well. but due to work (both hers and mine), evening classess, weekly get togethers with friends, only get to see each other twice a week. We've not had sex or done anything sexual as she asked if we can wait as her ex screwed with her head on that issue. Told her i'm happy to wait till shes ready (and i am, as dont want to rush things).
Not sure what i'm posting for, just confused really and need to get it off my chest.
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Just try not to read into everything, ive always been like that but i'm starting to get better now! its just one of those things some people do.
Cos of that I would just say be cautious, cos this like she still have issues with ex relationship, which aint good generaly. Unless the reason for the issue is some sort of an abuse.
I wouldn't say she still have feeling or anything, but just be careful.
or it could just be P.M.S.
I'm hoping that she's just had a bad day. she did say she had a headache so guess that could be it.
Oh I see, she has some good reasons then. Seem like he was a huge cunt.
Well you know, everyone got good and bad days, just see how it goes, at this point I don't think there is much to be worry about.
Same here mate. Wife fucked off 7 months ago, thought couldn't love again and here I am. Paranoia will be part of the deal for a while and after you will see that there is no reason for it.
issues can sometimes come up and bite you on the bum when you think youre all over it too. Some exes have a lot to answer for.
as nmm said, it may just be PMT though, or just her headache. Headaches and feeling ill generally can make me a bit grumpy sometimes too.
What you have to remember tho, is that this one is NOT the old one.
So do not let the past make you paranoid too much.
Different people, different situation.
Well seems like she accept you for who you are more than your ex already.
If one can not accept the other what is the point.
Concessions are ok in a couple, but you still have to accept the other to one extend.
So it looks like i'm single again. Well i'm going to pour myself a large glass of Vodka.