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Condoms and spermicide.
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Hi,
I know there are condoms with spermicide included, but ive heard these tend to be hardly beneficial, if at all.
What I would like to know is, if i was to use a separate spermicide, how effective against pregnancy would this be if a condom split? Is it worthwhile, and if yes, whats the best way to apply it?
Also, its not really praqctical for my girlfriend to go on the pill, we're only going to have the chance to have sex every few weeks at most (probably less) for a while, so what other contraceptives are there that would be practical?
Thanks
I know there are condoms with spermicide included, but ive heard these tend to be hardly beneficial, if at all.
What I would like to know is, if i was to use a separate spermicide, how effective against pregnancy would this be if a condom split? Is it worthwhile, and if yes, whats the best way to apply it?
Also, its not really praqctical for my girlfriend to go on the pill, we're only going to have the chance to have sex every few weeks at most (probably less) for a while, so what other contraceptives are there that would be practical?
Thanks
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Other forms of contraception you will be able to find information about on this site and on the internet, but off the top of my head you could consider the contraceptive jab (injection) that doesnt have to be taken so frequently, IUD (but thats recommended really if shes had kids before which I assume she hasn't), etc.
Condoms + the pill are firm favourites though.
If you are i suggest you don't do it! And why is it not practical for her to go on the pill? I'd say thats the best option seeing as you seem to be having major anxiety problems.
How do you find your regular dose of synthetic hormone overdose?
really :eek2:
uh oh.
If condoms are between 90 and 98% effective, taking the average to be 95%, thats 5 in a hundred that fail, or one in twenty surely thats not right, it seems a bit of a high failure rate. And when they say theyre effective 95% of the time when used properly, how do they fail? does that mean slipping or splitting, or are there other ways they can fail?
NO contraceptive is 100%. 98% is pretty much as good as youre gonna get, plus condoms protect against everything else too. Use a good quality extra safe condom. They may not feel as sensitive as the super-thin ones, but theyre far less likely to tear - plus the extra safe ones are the ones you can get free from most family planning clinics too. I have never known one to tear.
Its good that youre being cautious, but if youre only having sex every few weeks, then condoms are a great and safe method of contraception. Try not to be paranoid, and just enjoy your time with your girl.
The information on the web is all so vague and open to misinterpretation, as was our 'sex education' in school. This site is pretty good and the forums are great but there really should be better info handed out to everyone.
For example, I didnt know that about the percentages given for condom failure rate. Surely just saiyng theyre 99.99% effective on the packet is easier (which it works out to be i think) ? It also looks better for the makers. But ah well.
So to summarise, providing a condom doesnt split or slip, you're more or less definitely ok?
from: http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_spermicide.html
seems like by themselves they're not particularly effective but as a safety net for use with condoms it seems wise.
In many circumstances it isn't appropriate to routinely use a spermicide.
But i failed to pay sufficient attention, because the chances of a condom splitting and me having to worry about pregnancy as a result are somewhat small
Well theres sensibly cautious, then theres worrying unneccesarily.
I'm surprised he even knows where to stick what.
I don't think they even mentioned spermicides during my sex education. If you use the sperm zapper afterwards though, isn't i even less likely to be effective as sperm may have already reached and passed the cervix?
I personally will not enjoy sex until I'm reassured that unwanted pregnancy is very unlikely to happen, and I bet a lot of people are the same. What is wrong with putting my mind at rest? I appreciate it may seem that I am worrying too much, but I dont see the harm in being extra-sure.
Hehe i find it funny you saying that after you've banged her.
Well surely you should have done your research beforehand? :chin:
Anyway if it's causing this much stress you shouldnt be doing it. It's meant to be fun innit, ain't gonna be if your having a near on panic attack everytime you shag her!
Have you had a look at the info pages on The Site? Theres pretty much everything you need to know on there.
But you did it anyway? Even though you were a nervous wreck?
Children these days. Desperate to get their end away.