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Im broody - help!
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My mate who is 2 years older than me has just had a baby today!! I have been to see her at home and the baby is lovely! 
Im just sooooooooooo broody, I want a baby! :impissed:
Im too young, but I just want one!! I know my fella aint that keen, and we did talk about it in the car (he is best mates with my mates fella - the father) and my fella said "I would have a baby if you wanted one" I do want one, but I think its just cos' I've seen a baby today! I'm so close to my mate, I even went with her for a scan!!
Its just I've started college again and im finding it really boring and a baby seems so exiting! Im really broody :banghead:
I fell peed of with myself for even getting broody :banghead:
Someone please help me :grump:
Tell me how nasty babys are and how childbirth is sooooooooo bad! :sour:
Im just sooooooooooo broody, I want a baby! :impissed:
Im too young, but I just want one!! I know my fella aint that keen, and we did talk about it in the car (he is best mates with my mates fella - the father) and my fella said "I would have a baby if you wanted one" I do want one, but I think its just cos' I've seen a baby today! I'm so close to my mate, I even went with her for a scan!!
Its just I've started college again and im finding it really boring and a baby seems so exiting! Im really broody :banghead:
I fell peed of with myself for even getting broody :banghead:
Someone please help me :grump:
Tell me how nasty babys are and how childbirth is sooooooooo bad! :sour:
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I aint even with anyone+ I'm aware I'm too young and still at college, etc,etc, but just the thought of settling down and having a family like my mate, is starting to appeal to me :-/
I know what you mean!! Its soooooo hard cos when I asked my fella he was like 'if you want a baby then we'll have one' and I sooooooo want one!!! I just wished my fella said NOOOOO kids ect. I could see myself settling down, having a kid now, but I know I'm being stupid :banghead:
We just need to think about the cons to having a baby-
- Strechmarks - (I've got them altready tho :yeees: )
- Birth
- Stichers!!!!!!!!!!!1 :eek:
- Sick and poo :sour:
- early mornings
- No lie ins :crazyeyes
- Getting up in middle of night to feed/change :nervous:
Anymore???
In all seriousness you've got a good thing there, a baby you can visit and play with without the responsibility. I shouldn't worry about being broody, perfectly natural. As long as you live by a little head a little heart, you'll have babies at the right time for you.
Someone more important than yourself and the responsibility for their life for at least the next 18 years...
I really want all that at the moment. I'll be torturing my friend when she has her baby and offer to babysit loads and hopefully that will put me off when the baby will start crying over everything. Ooo especially if her baby suffers from colic or something.
How long have you been with your fella then?
I do hope to move abroad for a while, just for the experience and to get me away from family to work out what I want in life,etc. Which I obviously couldn't do if I had a baby.
Goopy, bloody, nasty, crying, slimy, placenta, and thats only the first day...
They dont stay babies for long, but I love it when they get there own personality, say their own little words and start walking!! :yippe:
I've been with my fella for two and a bit years C2BK
I know its bad but I asked my mate how it was today and she said "Its the most painfull thing in the world....... but when you hold that baby all the pain is gone" I was like I didnt want that answer!! :mad:
The only thing is I have thought about the stuff I want to do -
- Clubbing - been there ect
- Going abroad on holiday - doing that soon
I dont want to travel the world, I just wanna get a nice house with me fella and have little bambinos
All that said, there comes a time when you're ready to accept all the hinderance and consumption of your time...and it might be that you're ready, even though you are still young! But I definitely see the connection between re-starting college and becoming more broody, a little bebe of your own seems like a more attractive thing to devote your time and energy to.
You're not rushing into anything, anyway, so that's cool. Give it time and see if you're actually feeling those maternal urges in the long-term...or if it's just the after effect of seeing someone else's cute little nipper (and being able to hand them back at the end of your visit)
Buying baby clothes is a BAD idea though, whenever I shop for my niece I go off the broody-scale.
They are fucking expensive, and you are stuck with looking after them for about 18 years. Rather you than me :thumb:
That's alright until that comes to mean that they defy you at every turn, start touching everything and tell you to piss off.
Absolutely. The first word I learned was "no".
Shortly followed by "why?"
doesnt stop me feeling broody anyway
i still do that!
Shopping for baby clothes is great but the downside is you have to put a baby in them - yuck how horrible
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In about 18 months I am though
As long as everything goes to plan, that is.
followed by 'i want this', 'no, you can't have it', 'WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhHHHHHHHHHH' screaming fit in supermarket.
to try and stop my wee nephew doing this, his mum told him 'i know you want it, but do you really need it?
so then he switched to 'i NEED this', 'no, you don't need it', 'WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhHHHHHHHHHH' screaming fit in supermarket.
i used to get very broody when the kids in the family were tiny babies. now they're all of toddling age, much as i love them, after a day or two MY GOD do i need a rest. i value my time/sleep/belongings at the moment too much to have kiddies.
Mess Test
Smear peanut butter on the sofa and curtains. Now rub your hands in the wet flowerbed and rub on the walls. Cover the stains with crayons. Place a fish stick behind the couch and leave it there all summer.
Toy Test
Obtain a 55-gallon box of Lego's. (If Lego's are not available, you may substitute roofing tacks or broken bottles.) Have a friend spread them all over the house. Put on a blindfold. Try to walk to the bathroom or kitchen. Do not scream. (This could wake a child at night.)
Feeding Test
Obtain a large plastic milk jug. Fill halfway with water. Suspend from the ceiling with a stout cord. Start the jug swinging. Try to insert spoonfuls of soggy cereal (such as Fruit Loops or Cheerios) into the mouth of the jug, while pretending to be an airplane. Now dump the contents of the jug on the floor.
Dressing Test
Obtain one large, unhappy, live octopus. Stuff into a small net bag making sure that all arms stay inside.
Grocery Store Test
Borrow one or two small animals (goats are best) and take them with you as you shop at the grocery store. Always keep them in sight and pay for anything they eat or damage.
Night Test
Prepare by obtaining a small cloth bag and fill it with 8 - 12 pounds of sand. Soak it thoroughly in water. At 8:00 P.M. begin to waltz and hum with the bag until 9:00 P.M. Lay down your bag and set your alarm for 10:00 P.M. Get up, pick up your bag, and sing every song you have ever heard. Make up about a dozen more and sing these too until 4:00 A.M. Set alarm for 5:00 A.M. Get up and make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.
Physical Test (Women)
Obtain a large beanbag chair and attach it to the front of your clothes. Leave it there for 9 months. Now remove 10 of the beans.
Physical Test (Men)
Go to the nearest drug store. Set your wallet on the counter. Ask the clerk to help himself. Now proceed to the nearest food store. Go to the head office and arrange for your paycheck to be directly deposited to the store. Purchase a newspaper. Go home and read it quietly for the last time.
Final Assignment
Find a couple who already has a small child. Lecture them on how they can improve their discipline, patience, tolerance, toilet training, and child's table manners. Suggest many ways they can improve. Emphasize to them that they should never allow their children to run riot. Enjoy this experience. It will be the last time you will have all the answers.
i do have a gorgeous 8 month old nephew and i do think aww i want! but then i realise i only want him to look at.
I used to think it was exaggerated before I actually had one.
My prerequisites for having one are:
a) I have a house large enough for them to have a separate play room where they can make as much mess as they like but there toys are on pain of death to remain in that room and go NOWHERE else in the house
b) They have their own bathroom.
c) I have a Nanny who takes care of them 5 days a week (which includes a saturday) - however this will probably be a nanny share with some of my friends.
d) My standard of living does not go down and I still have exactly the same ammount of money to spend on myself as I do now - because i find it hard enough to manage with just me on what I earn.
e) I'm able to give my children all the things I had as a child and more
f) When they reach 12 they're being shipped off to summer camp in the US for the whole summer weather they like it or not - i'm sure it will teach independence.
g) I still get one meal out a week.
I do however realise this is a total spoilt rich kid view of things; but I think its a better view to have than to think that having a baby is all sweetness and light and i allow you all to laugh and point at me in a years time when i'm all babied up!!
Also there are so many unloved children in the world - why not love one of them instead i've never understood this need to reproduce yourself...
sounds cool though, just not really how it happens.