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Worried about a friend
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I'm worried about one of my friends. She's recently got an online bf who shes only known a few months. She hasn't met him or spoken to him on the phone. I don't think they even have each others mobile numbers. Thing is, he's 20 and at finishing uni soon, she's my age. When she first started talking to him he asked her out more or less straight away and he'd just split from his gf. I don't think he'd even seen a picture of her. I'm worried because i think she's only doing because the rest of us have boyfriends and she feels left out. She's a really lively bubbly girl but she's quite big so doesn't have much confidence with guys. I just think she's doing it for the wrong reasons and it seems odd that all he's been interested in is getting with her since he met her. Should i say something?
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How can it be possible to go out with someone if you've never seen a picture of them?
Agreed.
Just make sure she still comes out with you
This "20 yr old guy" is probably a snotty nosed brat who thinks he's cool cos he has an internet gf. And your mate thinks she's cool cos she has an internet bf...tell her to wise the fuck up and catch a grip of herself.
Be careful because if it seems like all of her friends have been talking about her she might feel like you're ganging up and that will push her further into this.
Do you still go out as a bunch of friends? She might feel like she needs somewhere else to turn if you all have bf's. By expressing your concern on here it shows you care about her alot so maybe have a few girlie nights outs and chat to her about it while you're having fun somewhere and when she wont feel backed into a corner.
I don't think theres any major issue here unless (like someone else said) she starts arranging meetings with him. To me it just sounds like she's having fun and enjoying the fantasy of having a 'boyfriend' without having to move out of her comfort zone and actually get one.
Good luck anyhoo xx
What the fuck are you on about?
You know rightly it's a childish chirade...your mate is a silly cunt and so is her "boyfriend" fuck dem both...tell yer mate to get a new e-mail address.
So, if you were Ballerina, you'd let your friend go and meet this guy, go out with him, etc? Sooner or later she'll probably come running crying...
If Ballerina steps in and tells her not to meet this guy and to forget abnout him etc then is she really going to listen? i doubt it. it will likely just make her want to meet this guy more because 'they are starcrossed lovers who everyone is against' or some other crap like that.
I just don't know how to say it without sounding funny because i don't think anyone else has said anything.
I agree.
The problem being though that she might meet him without telling her mates and that would be a very very bad idea
This is a very good point, as it what Rainbow Brite said.
to be honest i think your being a bit judgemental of her afterall its making her happy and different strokes for different folks and all that.
how would you react if she told you that your relationship was dodgey because he is older than you and you met him on the net? cos effectivley your doing the same thing.
:yeees:
You're making a mountain out of a molehill.
You do realise that she could think that you're just interfeering? And for you all know, it cpould be totally innocent...