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All? I wouldn't have said that. Women have vastly more sexual choice and opportunity than men, for a start. You also live longer, and have financial benfits over men in a few areas.
It depends which woman as well. A 19 year old who looks like a playboy bunny has more opportunities and power than 99% of men on the planet, and all she had to do for it was get born. The 1% of men who can match those opportunities will have to have great wealth or fame or political connections.
An attractive man might have equal power over women sexually as an attractive woman has over men, but having that sort of power over women doesn't get you as far as having that sort of power over men, since men still control everything......if you get what I mean.
True, didn't think of it that way round. Even if you got equality though, then men would own 50% of businesses, and she would still have more power than 99% of men.
Because of the way male and female sexuality work it's never going to be the case. Men - look - want - do (if they can) Women look - want - all kinds of secondary checks due to the fact that if the sexual act is successful they'll have someone to look after for 18 years - do (if they can)
In other words, if a playboy bunny lookeylikey rang for a pizza, asked the delivery boy for a shag, she'd be almost guaranteed to get one then and there, and he'd still be telling his mates about it at 90 years of age. Is that true the other way around?
The thing is, none of that applies to me. My parents always bought me toys i wanted - when i was young and didnt know what guns and swords were i played with all sorts of toys - many of them traditionally female.
My father gets ruled by my mother. She has the last say on most decisions, and he's as passive a man as you'll find. As I said, testosterone and oxycontin etc differ between the sexes - that's scientifically established - and this accounts for much of the difference.
I haven't denied that socialisation plays its part, it obviously is a factor - but inherent difference is by and large accepted in the psychological field, however controversial people find it. In the 60s/70s - before developments in psychology and the advent of evolutionary psychology in particular - the socialisation school of thought was in a far stronger position than it is now. The question most psychologists are now focussing upon is the amount of lee-way an alternate socialisation would offer, with strong, inherent difference largely established as reality.
I don't subscribe to the 'all feminists are hairy moaning old hags' idea.
Perhaps women and young girls today don't realise what efforts were made in the 'woman's movement' back in the 60's and 70's. Personally I wouldn't call myself a feminist because the moniker is associated with a warped idea of what feminism really is.
Feminism to me is being able to be treated equally in terms of my personal relationships with both sexes. It's fighting not to be better or to get better things, but to be equal and most importantly to be viewed as emotionally and mentaly equal. Sadly, I don't think we're quite there yet.
Can somebody explain or provide links detailing these different forms of feminism?
Other than the notion of equality of pay etc, which no-one is seriously going to argue, there seems to be a lack of ideological explanation for what feminism actually is. Who are these feminists who shouldn't be listened to, who are the feminist who should, and to what schools of feminist thought do they belong
Also...if i agree with legal equality and the right to equal pay...does this make me a feminist, even though i believe inherent difference is more important than socialisation? To me, both these opinions are compatible, but i've never met a feminist who wouldn't laugh at the idea...
Apart from equal pay, what does this actually entail? "social, political and economic equality" are rather vague terms.
Schools of Feminist Thought
I'm not 100% that it's exhaustive, but it's a bloody good start (and very interesting).
Sure... But could you please post a link about hormones and chemicals to back up what you were saying before?
Wikipedia definition.
The first wave of feminism came about the Enlightenment period in philosophy (it could also be argued that the Western secular idea of human rights is heavily influenced by the Enlightenment philosopher Immanuel Kant), which is why it was stupid earlier where somebody assumed that Germaine Greer somehow invented feminism... However she did do a lot of research in to the roots of First Wave feminism and also has written books about female poets (I actually went to see her give a speech on the book she wrote, which is actually quite hard to get hold of now) as well as feminism.
Radical Feminism = Women's problems are caused by the dominance and evils of patriarchy.
Gender Feminism = Abolishing gender rles completely.
Difference/Cultural Feminists = Says that women and men are different, but some say that because women are kinder and more caring than men, we would have less wars.
Socialist and Marxist Feminists = Oppression of women can only end once we abolish class oppression, cultural oppression ect
Seperatist Feminists = Are what people try and tar every feminist with.
There's several types.
So what exactly would you like to see change?
beg your pardon
yeah - I think you are right. I think a ot of men are badly educated and confused about stuff (not all just a lot) so they tend to make a big deal about hormones and moods, when the reality is that we are all equal and we all have hormonal changes that are most definately there and should be discussed in amature way. I mean, the amount of men I have met who can't say or discuss the word 'tampon' without thinking it's something that is funny or disgusting - it's bizzare.
Many men will go through relationships with their girlfriends and daughters without ever being able to talk to them as equal human beings! It's very sad.
Luckily I seem to have some good male friends who are mature and have been raised well by their parents.
There is nothing wrong with been a press/television/media whore anyway! It gets you into positions to do things!
Well, im glad to see you dont pigeon hole men into a single type, you at least left the option of other kind of men
Feminism:
Feminism is theory that men and women should be equal politically, economically and socially.
This is the core of all feminism theories. Sometimes this definition is also referred to as "core feminism" or "core feminist theory." Notice that this theory does not subscribe to differences between men and women or similarities between men and women, nor does it refer to excluding men or only furthering women's causes. Most other branches of feminism do.
Why you believe in feminism and what your ideas are to make feminism a reality is what causes arguments within the feminism movement.