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i have found it to be true.
listen to lipsy - she is most wise!
i think it is like a control thing, its like they want to put you down and erode ur self esteem, if you think your worthless you'l stay with them cos u don't think u can find sum1 else... something like that
Also common behaviour with guys who don't care about their g/f.
Slagging in jest is different from both.
this is so true! it is bad when it gets too much and you just snap... speaking from personal experience... just makes it so much worse...
though funnily enough after i slapped him he never did insult me anymore
hmmm wonder why lol
in my case it was seriously.
i dont think things like that should be said as a joke, i wouldnt find it terribly funny
If you're told to stop, and you don't, then you obviously don't care enough.
But like if I say something stupid with out thinking he'll just call me a stupid bitch or a dickhead or something. I do tell him about it though. He's like it with everyone, he just thinks its acceptable. I do put him in his place though if i think hes takin it too far.
Luckily my guy is lovely, but it's not the same with my friend - yesterday she told me he unjokingly called her 'fat' several times (she's not). I was so annoyed, both at him and the fact she won't dump him! He is a possessive type (as someone above noted they were more likely to insult).
Insults definitely don't go together with a long loving relationship. How can someone love you yet make you feel awful saying you're fat, ugly, stupid?
I'd ditch him, althoug I guess its harder doing it than saying it, so I hear.
Nobody deserves being called names like that though.
I've never had a girlfriend make me feel that. :crying:
I often had girlfriends, particularly the current one (in fact, now I come to think of it, only the cutrrent one) saying insensitive things to me, and when I mention it, or get the hump I get told to get over it and not take things so seriously. I've never had a girl blatently call me nasty things though. What this guy seems to be doing is intentionally putting you down adn insulting you, which is an awful thing to do. I would say don't put up with it, but then I would if I were in your shoes. :rolleyes: