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What do you do.....
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When you fancy someone?
Theres a girl at my swimming pool who I really fancy(a lifeguard)....my way is to go as far over the opposite side of the pool,avoid looking at her as much as possible and generally stay as far away as possible,mainly because she (or any other girl)would never ever give me a second glance let alone talk to me or want to be around or seen with me!!
I`d like to hear from the shy guys and gals and what they do.
Apologies if this is crap.Tell me and I`ll leave you alone to be happy.
Thanks for any replies.
Theres a girl at my swimming pool who I really fancy(a lifeguard)....my way is to go as far over the opposite side of the pool,avoid looking at her as much as possible and generally stay as far away as possible,mainly because she (or any other girl)would never ever give me a second glance let alone talk to me or want to be around or seen with me!!
I`d like to hear from the shy guys and gals and what they do.
Apologies if this is crap.Tell me and I`ll leave you alone to be happy.
Thanks for any replies.
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Seriously, I'm usually pretty upfront about things, and go for full on flirting. I'm not a shy person though, and only just saw that bit of your post so this is a bit useless I guess.
What I say is, go up to her, tell you like her, ask whether she'd like to go out for a drink or maybe to dinner. That works!
At the end of the day if you don't have the bottle to ask her out, your not going to have a chance. Have a couple of drinks and go ask her out, what have you got to lose?
Plus, I dont want to ruin her day(or self respect)by talking to her and embarrassing her by being seen having me approach.Shed be devastated!!Why settle for me when theres so much better she can have?
Thanks for your replies though.
I dont want to sound mean, but with an attitude like that you are not going to get a woman. The first thing you need to do is work on chaning that. Self pity is not an attractive quality. You need to work on and change your self prespective. You can do it yourself, you can get professional help for it. But from just that post it seems like that is what you need. TO help you in relationships and to help you in life. Once you can be happy yourself and see yourself for what you are, believe that you are something, that you are worthy of others people attention and affection, then you can move on.
If you think your not worthy of even a moment of her time, then your not. If you think that you are, then your unstopable. Just believe in yourself. Know that you are a good person.
Having no self-confidence has never stopped me from asking women out! Come on, put some effort into it!
look ...if your realy that ugly ...that useless ...go for a useless ugly bird.
theres loads of 'em out there.
Erm, I usually just start a conversation with them. And because of this, only ever end up as "freinds." God, its pisses me off. I am always the freind. Arg. ;////
:yes:
Exactly.
I get knocked back by birds all the time (hard to believe I know ) but generally girls love a little confidence. Get some bottle, develop an attitude where you couldn't really give a fuck if you get knocked back and you'll be sorted. It's important to be able to take the piss out of yourself if you get rejected. That's it.
It's easier than you think. Have a few bevvies and you'll find what you need to say will come much easier. :yes:
One things for certain, if you don't put the effort in, you'll get fuck all.
Really, they should teach this kind of shit in schools so that people don't feel like this.
What My Name said to you is true, you need to start getting self confidence. So the answer to your question of "what do you do when you fancy someone" is have some guts and self-belief and go talk to them.
Or, if you like, you can continue standing as far away from them as possible and not get anywhere.
saying this, that is what i should be doing but i never do.. *sigh*
I know I do.
Either you talk or you don't.
:yes: Great idea! You might also find it helpful to have a read of These articles on TheSite about asking someone out and Starting a conversation if you haven't already.
You say you might not see her again - but there's always a chance and if not then who knows - your next potential date might be just around the corner
Good luck!
That's a very good point - you don't want her to lose her job. So perhaps wait to catch her while she is swapping shift with someone, or just start off short and then build up to a longer conversation.
Oh well,I wouldnt have said anything anyway really and truthfully.
So now Im just gonna stay as far away as possible from girls,not think about having them or even look at a girl I fancy.They just dont want anything to do with a guy like me as a boyfriend or friend at all.
All the girls at school said i was a boring loser with no personality anyway so I just have to accept that they are right and that Im just meant to be alone.
Shit happens.
Thanks for trying to help everyone.
You're wearing your depression like a note taped to your backside saying "KICK ME" - so don't be too surprised when people take the invitation to do just that. OK so you have no confidence with women because you have never had any success with them. We all know that success breeds confidence so start looking at the bigger picture and appreciate the areas of your life where you do have positive experiences. Don't let a modest record in one area of your life overshadow the others. Step back and take stock realistically and the picture will not appear so gloomy.
I generally follow that pattern, though the 5th and 6th sentences are interchangeable.
I just cant tell if she likes me though........when I was swimming she kept glancing at me for a while and looking but then when I had got changed and was waiting in the cafe she didnt give me a glance...
I dont know whether its worth asking now Iv seen the reality of the situation and thought about the consequences if I did ask.What do I do if she said yes??!!