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Why Can't He Forgive Me?
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A couple of days ago, I got a very angry text from my boyfriend. We're in a long distance relationship, and I received this text the day after he left from a great week we had had together.
Anyway, he had looked at my Myspace, which happened to have a comment from someone random who said I was good at online sex acts (whatever that means). My profile also said that I was single. I explained to my boyfriend that I didn't know this guy and I pointed out that my profile also says that I'm 0 height - I just haven't got round to configuring this part yet. His reply was: Do what the fuck you want and be who the fuck you want.
So I try to calm him down, to which he says: You are fucking stupid. Bye.
I tried calling and calling, but he kept cutting the calls short. Apparently, he didn't want to talk to me.
Obviously I was really upset, so I said I was sorry, which I am. But I said that it was stupid for us to dwell on something so silly. To which he called me fucking patronising. But, can I point out, that whenever he genuinely hurts me and says that it's silly, I agree and get on with out relationship.
Eventually, I got fed up. I told him that I haven't done anything so wrong that deserves being treated like this. So he told me to leave him alone (what does this mean?!) and talk to him when I knew what I had done. Then he said: I can't believe you...
And that's the last I've heard of him since over a day ago. I've tried calling, and making it up to him. I've sent him texts telling him that I'm sorry. I've sent him texts telling him I love him. But no reply...
What can I do to make things better? I've tried everything. Why won't he forgive me? Is there something here that I'm missing?
Help... This is making me so depressed... And I can't deal with that...
Anyway, he had looked at my Myspace, which happened to have a comment from someone random who said I was good at online sex acts (whatever that means). My profile also said that I was single. I explained to my boyfriend that I didn't know this guy and I pointed out that my profile also says that I'm 0 height - I just haven't got round to configuring this part yet. His reply was: Do what the fuck you want and be who the fuck you want.
So I try to calm him down, to which he says: You are fucking stupid. Bye.
I tried calling and calling, but he kept cutting the calls short. Apparently, he didn't want to talk to me.
Obviously I was really upset, so I said I was sorry, which I am. But I said that it was stupid for us to dwell on something so silly. To which he called me fucking patronising. But, can I point out, that whenever he genuinely hurts me and says that it's silly, I agree and get on with out relationship.
Eventually, I got fed up. I told him that I haven't done anything so wrong that deserves being treated like this. So he told me to leave him alone (what does this mean?!) and talk to him when I knew what I had done. Then he said: I can't believe you...
And that's the last I've heard of him since over a day ago. I've tried calling, and making it up to him. I've sent him texts telling him that I'm sorry. I've sent him texts telling him I love him. But no reply...
What can I do to make things better? I've tried everything. Why won't he forgive me? Is there something here that I'm missing?
Help... This is making me so depressed... And I can't deal with that...
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I'd leave him be! What an immature prat, if you were in a LDR he would appreciate that you don't have a constructive and mature discussion about shit without him hearing your side first. It wouldn't involve stupid childish text messages. It would involve a phone call at least. What a bloody pie.
His attitude when a teeny tiny bump comes along sums it up that he doesn't deserve you. You've done NOTHING wrong. You've justified the reasons it has happened, but he's too wrapped up in being hurt and stupid to see what's at the end of his nose. He reminds me of my stupid mates when they have a drunken barney with their blokes, but he's - from what I can tell - is sober?! And this is his attitude?
Leave him be. You can do better. He's too uptight.
The way he has reacted does seem a bit much though.
And I guess, yeah, maybe apologising made it look like I have something to apologise for but he told me to leave him alone until I could figure it out by myself (not the first time he has done this).
The only thing he seemed pissed at was the Myspace thing. I've racked by my brains for days now and still I can't think of what I could have done wrong. I just don't understand.
He didn't call or text to say Happy New Year either...
That really hurts.
Arse! :rolleyes:
The waiting hurts though... I'm trying so hard to be patient.
seriously he sounds about 5.
not that he's in the right or anything, but i can see where he could be coming from though
I can see where he's coming from... but I've explained the situation to him and he only reacted with insults. I even apologised (just so that we could clear this up) and still he reacted at first with insults, and then with silence.
Also, he's 19.
Fuck, I hate this. And myself.
maybe he does want to dump you, maybe its the complete opposite - only thing you can do is ask him straight though ?
But I've apologised, asked nicely, begged, looked to him for help for the way I've been feeling, been affectionate, told him that I love him, wished him a happy new year, talked about seeing him soon, thanked him for the past year.
I'm just gonna have to ask whether or not he believes me, I guess.
You're doing everything BUT telling him to fuck off and grow up before he contacts you again. STOP apologizing, STOP begging, STOP waiting until he takes you back. It should be the other way around at this point.
Your bf sounds like a silly little boy, from what you've posted on here, and I think the best thing for you to do is to stop pandering to him, and start telling him to act like a man.
But on a serious note...
If the guy is gonna throw away a relationship cuz of something he read on the internet then hes a fucking moron...
But this is a boyfriend who won't visit her, and won't speak to her on the phone half the time.
I think he's made his mind up that the relationship is over, but he's too chicken-shit to just dump his girlfriend. I'm sorry to say it hon, but I think he's trying to make you dump him, to save him the guilt and the hassle of it.
I've said before that I get the impression you don't love him, you would just die at the thought of not having someone. YOu shouldn't be with someone simply because you perceive being single as worse, and you certainly shouldn't be with someone who treats you like this. You hardly have him anyway, if he keeps acting like this. You are worth more than to be yelled at, ignored and abused. Being single is preferable to this. He sounds like he's 12.
I also know you'll keep hanging on to his bootlaces, and keep begging for forgiveness, for as long as it takes for you to realise that your life isn't a failure if you don't have a boyfriend.
Honestly, if he was here now, I'd have slapped him by now...
I just want to do this :banghead:
It's not as if we can even talk about it if he won't keep in touch. It takes 2 to have a conversation.
Anyway... I am in love with the idea of being in love, I'll admit that. But up until recently (when he was lacking in the keeping-in-touch part) he was everything I ever dreamed of.
I think it's time I got nasty... :mad:
If I could actually talk to him this would be so much easier!
ARGH!
If you can't get an answer out of him then I think your relationship is over. I'm sorry to sound like that, but if you aren't talking to your partner then what exactly do you have?
And just leave it like that. That way, he isn't getting even more pissed off with your constant calling/texting, it might give him an opportunity to calm down and actually think about what has happened. You've let him know where you stand on the issue and now it is up to him to decide what he wants. At least this way you don't have to keep worrying about it as it is totally in his hands if he wants to contact you.