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hi i really feel like i need some help and am i finding it difficult to talk to friends. im really confused at the moment me and my bf splitt up on boxing day and i am really upset but it was my decision he was really upset as well beause we have been together for nearly four years. my reason for wanting to splitt up with is that at the end of november i realised i was pregnant i was so upset and didnt know what to do. after talking to my bf and no one else we decided to have an abortion. but now everytime i look at him it makes me realise what i did and it makes me so upset to the point that i cant look at any more and i suppose i blame him aswell even though its probably my fault as much as his. but he didnt have to go through it. now we have splitt up i really dont know what to do. i dont know whether i should get back with him or whether we should stay apart. he says he wants us yo get back together but i really dont know how i feel. any replys would be great thanks
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It does get easier with time, I do think about it from time to time especially when my period arrives. But you must have had good reasons to have an abortion I know I did.
The abortion is not your boyfriends fault, ultimately you made the decision and he may not understand how difficult it was for you to actually go through with it. Also he may be as upset but unable to talk about it.
but you must have seen someone when making the decision - it's part of the abortion service.
If he wants to get back together with you then he must still love you.How long have you been apart?
*Hugs* and lots of them. I know you've said you find it really hard to talk about what's going on, but if you think you could, and don't want to talk to friends or family, you can go and see a counsellor at your local Brook Centre, it's free and totally confidential. If there isn't a Brook Centre near you, you can search the Youth Access directory of services to find a free counselling service near you. It might really help.
CB
-How you're feeling about the abortion
As people have said above, counselling will help, as will talking to friends and family about it if that feels confortable.It's a really difficult thing you've been through but people are there to help.
-What your going to do about your bf
This may be very hard at the moment but i think that to answer this you should be looking past the abortion and think to yourself do i love him? if the answer is yes then when your ready maybe you should think about seeing him again.
Sorry for the really straight forward e-mail, i know it's not as straight forward as that in real life!
thanks