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how long did it take you get over your first love?
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How long before you felt well and truly over your first serious relationship?
Mine ended about four months ago, and I still think about her every day. Two of those months I was still holding out some hope that we might get back together until she finally made it clear it wasn't going to happen. The circumstances of the breakup were very awkward which hasn't helped, she didn't really explain things properly to me, but I don't particularly want to talk about that here. I'm impatient to get over it all, but it is getting easier for me with time, bit by bit. Anway, I'm not really after any advice especially, cos I know I'm getting there gradually, but just wondering what other people's experiences are....
Mine ended about four months ago, and I still think about her every day. Two of those months I was still holding out some hope that we might get back together until she finally made it clear it wasn't going to happen. The circumstances of the breakup were very awkward which hasn't helped, she didn't really explain things properly to me, but I don't particularly want to talk about that here. I'm impatient to get over it all, but it is getting easier for me with time, bit by bit. Anway, I'm not really after any advice especially, cos I know I'm getting there gradually, but just wondering what other people's experiences are....
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he didnt get over me either that thats after a year after splitting
It's hard to say...the term getting over...depends how you define it really.
If you mean when will you forget about them and not care...that does depend on the circumstance.
In my case,it's been over 3 years since I split from my first love and to this day I still think of them foindly.Obviously at first it hurts real bad and you are holding on to the jope you ,ay getback together but then eventually you just get used to it and just remeber the good times and you realise you are lucky to have experienced what you did whne you were with them.
I have moved on but U still hold to my memories sweetly.
That relationship ended and I wad the one that didn't want it to end.
I am just grateful now that it happended.
It took me about 6mths to accept it was over and then I moved on.
Immediately after we broke up, he was off gallavanting with other girls (including my so-called friends) and being a big ole stud around town. It's sweet Schadenfreude now that he's never been able to move on from our relationship, and I still get those drunken late-night phone calls. Yeah, I'm probably quite twisted. But it was almost four years ago.
Moral of the story, imo, is that it's worth taking time to truly get over the end of a relationship. Otherwise it seems to follow people around like a spectre.
I guess you'll wake up one morning and realise you haven't thought about her for days on end, I hope it's sooner rather than later
I'm good at seperating my feelings and distancing myself from things, so yeah... Probably not long.
Many monhs to get over my second love.
Over a year fo rmy third and final love...infact i am still pining!
I'm currently trying to get over her, after she had an affair. But she's making it every easy and being a real B***h. So i having a laugh now and making new friends, having some fun (but keeping safe)
so im gettin myself some space (we have a lot of mutual friends) that told me he HAD to be mates cuz were all mates togeather.... i now belive this to not be true... as its up to me if i want to be his mate... and right now i need time to get over him.... which is what im doin.. but i doubt ill ever stop loving him completly.. but that doesnt bother me cuz i have learnt alot from this :) xx
its bit 5months and i aint close but i know ill get there now :P x
still loads of mixed emotions
what really drew a line under it was him txting me out the blue and trying to control me like he used to so i told him in no uncertain terms what i thort of him and since then havnt really thort anything about it.
so i think it was to get over him about 3 months, to get over the content of the relationship about a year and 1/2
We get on really well now though, we're really close and I never feel embarrassed about talking to him about anything, although I have to avoid certain subjects like alcohol because he is more stubborn than anyone in the P&D forum, and 100% less informed.
ETA: Actually yesterday I had what I call a "dermot day" and my friend came up on cheered me up. I had came across an old photo of him and started crying. This coupled with the fact my boyrfriend was playing bloody computer games (he's 25) when he was meant to be studying and the fact my first love is now in Oxford doing Physics really got to me. My first love with my epitome of the perfect bloke. Physically and mentally. It's sad when I think of how things could have turned out. I sometimes want to tell him I still love him but he's with a girlfriend now and very happy.
If he's happy I wouldn't intrude. Maybe one day I'll let him know.
xx sauce xx :wave: