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Going to uni with the other half..
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I'm hoping to go off to uni next september, but I'm going to be going with my boyfriend/fiancée. Obviously I'm not planning on living in halls.. we're going to rent a somewhere up there. He isn't going to uni, he's going to try and get his job relocated (he works for a branch of a large chain) and if that doesn't work, he's going to try and get another job...
Just wondering if anyone else has gone to uni with their boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancée and how they worked things out?
Just wondering if anyone else has gone to uni with their boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancée and how they worked things out?
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The only advice that i can give is that you seriously NEED to make an effort in regards to making friends or else you only ever have you bf. It is too easy to be in a new situation and just revert to what you know. Make an effort and things should be alright.
Moral of the story: don't shoot yourself in the foot by cutting yourself off from everybody. It'd be easier to just spend all your time with your partner but if you don't make that initial effort to meet people it'll just get harder with time
We want to rent, but what kind of taxes and stuff will we be needing to pay (he'll be working full time, I'll be working part time and full time uni) and will we both still be able to live in 'student housing' like, places that rent to students in particular.. the cheaper houses?
Gah it all sounds so confusing
I'd disagree, halls are shit.
Well on campus accomidation then, something where you are living with other students. And Halls are fine.
anyway, i know two couples. the first are both at uni, they have a house together and work part time to afford everything. the second couple, one's at uni, the other works and they have a flat together. money-wise, both couples actually manage OK, obviously they're on a bit of a tight budget but then all students are.
Socially, both couples are also fine but that's only because they made the effort to make friends with people on their course, who they work with, who they live near. It would have been easy for them to just stick together and isolate themselves which is something you don't want to do.
I should point out though that both of these couples had been together for a long time before going to uni which i think was important. you don't want the added stress of moving in with someone you're not 100% comfortbale and sure about as well as starting uni.
it's difficult, uni is a very busy period.
made worse when your gf is a bit insecure and doesn't like your freinds, I can tell you that for sure! *grumbles*