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So yeah, I live in student halls and whils three of us pull our weight on the cleaning, two flatmates don't do shit... As in they cut bread on filthy work surfaces, leave shit all over the cooker ect.
When we first got there, myself and another guy said they could use our saucepans as they'd just come over from America and needed to sort themselves out.Now one of them is using my plates, utensils and stuff too and leaving it on the side filthy (how much effort to run something undera tap?).
They're also very noisy, like they talk and laugh really loud in the corridoor when people are sleeping and wake us all up. They come in to the kitchen when we're watching TV and make such a racket...
Now is it me or are they being rude? Or is it just Americans?
See I want them to be a bit more respectful as they're pissing the other flatmates off too. It's like living with two fifteen year olds (literally) in how they behave, but when they're alone they're nice... Well one of them seems really nice, not sure about the other and I don't wanna fall out with them.
How do I tell them?
When we first got there, myself and another guy said they could use our saucepans as they'd just come over from America and needed to sort themselves out.Now one of them is using my plates, utensils and stuff too and leaving it on the side filthy (how much effort to run something undera tap?).
They're also very noisy, like they talk and laugh really loud in the corridoor when people are sleeping and wake us all up. They come in to the kitchen when we're watching TV and make such a racket...
Now is it me or are they being rude? Or is it just Americans?
See I want them to be a bit more respectful as they're pissing the other flatmates off too. It's like living with two fifteen year olds (literally) in how they behave, but when they're alone they're nice... Well one of them seems really nice, not sure about the other and I don't wanna fall out with them.
How do I tell them?
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Choose next year's flatmates carefully.
My first year in halls was pretty similar. Except there were only 4 of us...2 females, 2males. The males were completely scruffy and hardly ever washed up and one of them went out every single night, came home at 3 in the morning, and had a mate in another flat in the halls who insisted on coming round at about 4am every morning and waking us all up. Unfortunately I never got it sorted and I was very glad to move out by the end of the year.
Think I'm going to be glad to move out end of this year as well...but at least I have my fellas where I can go and escape most nights. But current flat mate seems to be getting worse at cleaning. She used to be very good at doing the washing up but crap at everything else...now she just does nothing and I get bored of coming home and having to clean the kitchen and wash up before I can even make my own tea.
But thats flat mates for you and you'll be lucky ever to find flat mates that have exactly the same standard of cleanliness as you....one way or another one will be less satisfied than another. It's just learning to compromise with each other.
It's inspection today and my job was the sink and work surfaces.
Don't wanna fall out with anyone, it's jus annoying me how inconsiderate some people are... Like they expect us to look after them.
try mentioning it to them sometime,just briefly and see if they get the message, if they dont, then start moaning
my rooms a tip but it aint got food in it, just some empty beer cans
we spoke to them 3 times, in a clear ,calm, non-accusory way. the 4th time it happened we moved all our kitchen stuff into our own rooms so no-one could use it except us, and when they asked we told them exactly why.
two days later we got apologies and it didn't happen again.
I do that, even a George Foreman grill (the full size one). I suppose if things get really bad you could also keep a plate, bowl, mug glass etc in your room for when you've no time to root stuff out of the sink.
With regards to the obnoxious behaviour, as Kentish said, some people just don't realise how loud they can be and how it pisses other people off. So you'll probably have to sit them down and explain and hope they take it on board. We did that with one of my flatmates and it worked pretty well.
I had one of those last year at Uni and the one thing it's taught me is that if there are people who don't have anywhere to live, there's a reason why and there's no point in being charitable!
To be honest, from deeply personal experience, there's only so much kind words and suggestions can achieve. Unfortunately, if this person is hell bent on being a twat, you're gonna have to bite the bullet and accept that there's only so much nagging and gentle reasoning can accomplish. Have a decent shout at him/her just to make it clear where you stand.
I'm afraid if they're still intent on being social dickheads, there's very little you can do - just count the days til the end of term.
:yes: I had the same problem last year. There was only so many times I could say "please wash up after you use my things" or "please dont take my things into your room for days on end, I need them" before it got to the stage of "touch my things again and I'll break your neck".
You carry on cleaning for them and they will never learn.
Same old story. I wash up all my stuff almost as soon as I've finished with it, everyone else spills stuff and doesn't wipe it and lets the washing up pile up to the extreme. And the bin to overflowing. I can almost see the e-coli virus multiplying in glee on our work surface. Three of them ok, clean stuff up (eventually) the other dude lets his plates go mouldy. He eats microwave meals and leaves the packets lying where ever he finishes with them. Two of them use everyone elses mugs, cutlery, plates, pans baking trays tea bags arghh!!! Still. It's student life, i guess.
Maybe if one of them has a birthday coming up you could buy them some crockery - they might get the hint.
As for the noise thing - there's not much you can do I'm afraid - that's just student life for you. I found people were pretty responsive in my halls if you could actually get up the courage to go out and ask them to be quiet, but I never really had the guts unless armed with a good excuse like 'I have an exam at 9am tomorrow' or something.
well im a first year living in halls with 4 other girls.. and where im not filthy and if i do borrow other peoples stuff, then i wash it up and stuff... but at the same time..im abit like the nightmare people u discribed..
i come in, in the early hours..and like dont intentionally wake everyone up.. but im drunk, and then me and my mates will go in the kitchen and cook and stuff..sing...invite more people..and so on..
at the start of the year, my other flatmates tried to get us all to go to tescos and like...all 5 of us buy cleaning products...lol..does this only sound weird to me?? i was like i just moved into halls at uni, the last thing i wanna do is go on an outting to buy cleaning stuff...
and yes, i did live as independently as possible at home, but this is uni!!! as i said im not filthy, but i dont make extra efforts to clean! and yea its well selfish but they always clean...so why deny them the pleasure?
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At least you admit you're an anti-social twat who would benefit immensely from a fully interactive excursion down a flight of stone steps.
Cleaning stuff is the first thing you buy after milk and bread.
Sel, you should keep your crockery and cutlery in your room, and any washing-up that isn't done should get tipped in their beds. Though as they sound like filthy little shits anyway, I doubt they'd notice. We tried that with one housemate, and they were still there, growing mould in her room two months later.
Mind, she did think that hot water and washing up liquid weren't necessary to clean plates...
That pisses me off immensely. Or drying dishes with a tea towel that's black and was previously lying in a corner of the kitchen, what's the point?!
say to them firmly that you don't want them to use any of your stuff again unless they wash it up afterwards. and they should respect that other people live there and want things to be clean, so they need to pull their weight.
but you will need to learn that not everyone is going to be as clean/tidy as you. some people don't think about it. like they'll keep adding stuff into an already full bin without realising it would be easier to take the rubbish outside and put a new bag in.
that happens in my house and it's so annoying! last year we even had people putting rubbish in carrier bags around the bin.
That doesn't always work.
In my experience, selfish oafs will just inore ultimatums, and do it anyway. When GWST had the flatmates from hell (posh and Southern, say no more) they still did it, regardless of what she did. It was such a shame beating the brains out of the little twat was illegal. I did always make a point of parking my car so that he couldn't get out of "his" space, mind.
The best solution is to keep your stuff in your room, apart from the few small items that need to be kept refrigerated. Buy skimmed milk (nobody will nick that), put food colouring in all your stuff, etc etc.
Because its not a pleasure.
What you are doing is selfish, rude, nasty, unpleasant, dirty and revolting.
I'm really glad I didnt go to a Halls uni because I wouldnt have been able to put up with that kind of thing, its just vile. Maybe I could have asked to be housed with a flat of poofs.