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Is there something wrong with me because i'm 23 and still single?
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Your only 23....a good part of your life you were a child. So really you havent been single that long!
To be fair I don't see anything negative about being a singleton at all, it's a whole world of self-discovery and you have precious freedom and one less thing to worry about.
Your only 23!!!!! For fuck's sake why do you want to be in a relationship?!?! You've got the rest of your life to worry about that sort of stuff. You're in your 20s ... nows the time to see the world and to experience all you can. Worry about the other stuff later on.
Erm yes.
All I'm saying is that some people find someone they want to be with younger than that and others don't, but there's nothing wrong either way.
All of you who talk about "the right person", I have to say that I think it's very hypocritic.
I assume most posters here have had a number of boy/girlfriends. And keep in mind that in this I include all kinds of them, "serious" or not. Were all of them "the right person"?
If yes, then you're saying that people like Stafford have fewer "right persons" than you do, which can only be insulting.
If not, even if you take all your totally bad experiences out, then you didn't wait for "the right person" to have a relationship. So why should he?
Show me where she said that she never found someone she wanted to be with.
Well if you seem to be a normal person then yes there is because you are single for a reason
Are you a bad person?
Doesn't mean that and it doesn't mean lots of people wouldn't like you but something you are doing is wrong
Should you be worried?
Quite possibly but it depends on what you've been doing and what your life is like
Can the problem be fixed?
Of course it can but it does mean certain things might be harder for a while as you play catch up but if you find someone who cares it won't matter
Ia this by choice or not?
Steady now, your bitterness is showing.
In my eyes, the "right" person is someone who you'd like to have a relationship with and who wants the same with you. So you do actually you have to wait for the right person to come along.
And no, there is nothing wrong with being single at 23.
See the "if yes" part of my post in the first page (and the rest of it).
Bollocks to it, it's pointless and I can't be bothered.
I don't want to take this thread even more off course.
And even if the amount of "right persons" (in lack of a different term) isn't evenly distributed, if there hasn't even been one in so many years should mean something.
Oh believe me, I haven't taken offense, not in the slightest.
Nice nit-picking. You've convinced me that you're right.
Why should it mean something? What should it mean?
Some people start dating sooner than others. That doesn't effect either the quantity or quality of the dating.
Your argument is still a ridiculous straw man. Which doesn't prove that anyone is hypocritical.
But it does affect the state the person is in when/if they do. And that can cause problems.
Nothing could be farther from the truth man. I hate confrontation online. Sorry if that seemed aggressive.
It's an immensley rare case that it's if. But it can be a positive thing as well. You're more mature, you might have lived a bit more, you know you can survive without a relationship, etc. It's how you look at it.
And there are a million and one things that can affect the state of the person.
BTW, I'm 23 in two weeks and I've not had a serious girlfriend either. So I do know what it's like.
The key word here is "serious". Sorry, but you don't.
As I said before, I did not take offense; but I admit I took the whole thing personal. I always do...
I could say more, but I don't want to take over the thread.... Not any more than I already have.
You're not serious? I think you'll find that I understand perfectly. You don't have a fucking clue about my dating history. How do you know whether I'd had a girlfriend or not at your age? But you carry on the "no one understands me" angst if it makes you feel better.
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I should have said something like "I don't think you do". "No serious till 23" doesn't say anything about 20, so I can't know.