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anyone got a problem with condoms?
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I am looking for advice, my boyfriend has a problem with condoms, every time he puts one on, he goes soft quickly. He is a diabetic and cant take viagra. I have heard about creams and things you can get, can anyone reccommend one and let me know where to get it?
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xx deeby doo xx
If you think this could be a medical problem however (unlikely) then as always, its best to visit the GP.
you always know what to say...
are you the font of all knowledge?
Since he has high blood pressure, that rules out a great deal of the creams and lotions available in sex shops (which often work poorly anyway, and only then by raising blood pressure or causing a tingling sensation). In general, the Doctor should be able to advise properly, but yes, sometimes they need reminding that this isn't trivial to the sufferer.
Your partner should let the doctor know that this situation is causing some unhappiness and stress (stress is a magic word for making doctors take more notice usually). Basically, keep on at the doctor until he at least checks for latex allergies, and gives some advice on the matter.
In the meantime, consider using other methods than condoms. For starters you can both get blood tests to confirm the absence of STDs and then you can at least practice oral sex without need for condoms. Have you considered other methods of contraception? Condoms are not great contraceptives anyway - my own conception was testament to the imperfect contraceptive powers of condoms. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Thank you very much for that compliment. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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