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after breaking up with an ex (because of lack of trust) we still loved the sex with each other, and thought being fuck buddies might work. the situation felt alright at first but then where i always use to get a hug after i got the back turned towards me, thats when i realised the fucked buddies thing wasn't going to work, i felt cold and a bit rejected. didn't really call for any more after that.
Me too; sex to me is more than just sex, it's two people sharing each other in an amazing way. With that in mind, fuck buddies are something wicked, and will probably get you kicked out of heaven . Nevermind though, because to most people sex is just sex, and it's up to you what you do. If you want to do it go for it! I wouldn't go round telling your friends however because to many it is seen as immoral - sex without emotional feeling.
sure im not going to get in anyway so jackpot
generally it works out fine without complications.. and at the moment it's incredibly gratifying and well.. obviously it feels good.... so yeah it works
however... i would say don't do the whole fb thing....
sex is supposed to be something really intimate and when you detach your emotions from it constantly.. eventually you're going to ruin sex for yourself and your future LOVER....
if you have sex too often with no emotions attached it will distort your view of sex (more than society has already) and it won't be as intimate with someone you love as it could be... because you will have turned something that supposed to be both physical and emotional into something just physical
damn.... i shoulda said it like that.. so much easier... i always complicate things.. sheesh..
but yeah it does.... and im glad that i realized that before it happened to me!!!
having sex doesn't make you a slut
the general thing is that sex will become meaningless for you... so you're going to ruin sex for yourself but if you wnat a fuck buddy go ahead
theres a difference between sex and the other sex=p, the other ususally 'making love' is for those who want all that mushy stuff, sex in general imo is just sex, whatever u choose add to that to make it meaningful is ure decision
Both of us are attached now but a couple of months back, we met up and started talking about old times and old sex and we ended up sleeping with each other. It started as an open relationship and we talked about the kinky sex we'll have with each other. We both know that there's no future for us anyway. I guess we became FB's cause we liked each other, both in and out of bed.
But it's not easy when you're also emotionally attracted to each other, and eventually we're thinking about each other more often than we should. Recently, she said that we must stop seeing each other this way cause she can't get back on track with her bf, and he's getting insecure. I agreed cause I can't be selfish either.. I can't offer any long term commitments.
We reverted back to being good friends and was open about our respective relationships etc. It's great, but I don't know how long it will last before we end up in bed again. And each time it happens, it's going to be harder to turn back.
FB's with good friends are great because it does take the friendship to a different level. It's can be be extremely satisfying but IMHO, it's probably also a short term gratification which could turn ugly.
And of course I feel guilty and of course I wish I had the strength to stop it once and for all. For now, I'm going through the transition to good friends and I'm having breakfast with her this morning. We'll see how things work out over the next week or so
I don't think sex is meant to be purely physical, and the inevitable consequence is that the emotional side of sex is devalued. Even in other relationships in the future.
I can only speak for myself, but I really think it's sluttish.
You speak for me, too.
It`s cheaper then a Gym Membership :thumb:
I know, but who listens hey!
So we've got a good understanding, we've talked about exactly what we want and so far so good. I'm not the kind of guy to start being a dick about things though so I can't see any problems in the future.