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Hmm I have a dilema...
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...well, when i first met this guy (now my bf) i thought he was FINE. and he is. all my friends thought he was fit, so when he started texting me we all got really excited. we went out on a date and all was good...until we started going out. i'm only 17 but i've had a long term relationship before for a year and a half which ended up in a disaster, and my now bf has never had a gf. he had never kissed anyone before and was all excited about getting a girlfriend. his mum and my mum used to be best friends when they were at secondary school and were delighted when they found out we were going out. so we've been going out nearly 3 months and he's starting to drive me mad. he's always texting me telling me how much he loves me and how much he wants to see me, altho i have college all day everyday and work most of the weekends, he knows i dont have that much free time. he's always buying me really expensive gifts, which are lovely, but it all just gets abit much for me. he's becoming too clingy and i find myself being really mean to him even though i dont mean to. i dont know how to tell him that he's being to clingy and that its driving me mad. also, he doesnt drink alcohol at all, which is repect but, because i like to have a drink with my friends, i always end up feeling guilty about having him sat there being bored. he doesnt like it that i see my friends in most of my spare time, but they are the best friends i have ever had and really enjoy their company, and no one will make me loose them. so really, i just dont know how to tell him to back off, because if i dont one i day i know i will end up shouting at him and saying things i regret. so, any ideas on how to bring it up? any help would be greatly appreciated xxx
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If you're worried about how to bring it up - just say it the next time he rings you at an ackward time,
"listen Billy, I do appreciate the odd phonecall but you're kind of tearing the arse out of it now."
That probably didn't help at all but it's all I can sort of offer without knowing more
Btw, what star-sign is he?
You must be a Leo then
It was only a little joke/fun. No need to go all deep on us!
I'd agree with this.
I don't think it's fair for either of you. He's obviously looking for a serious relationship and you're not. He's not getting what he wants and neither are you. It might be best for both of you to go your separate ways here.
IT is my opinion that a healthy relationship must not be about ownership or control but about trust within the relationship to fluorish as an individual.