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Why has he come back? (long sorry)
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Ok abit of background, my ex finished me last october, it was only a short relationship but it was both our first serious one if you get me? He lives in the south though and im in notts so it was a long distance thing cause we originally met on the net. So, it ended last october, obviously i was gutted - things were awful for a while then we started talking again on the net. It would still get abit awkward at times but we were getting there. Then april/may time he told me his mum and step dad were splitting and him and his mum were moving out at some point, he'd also lost his job a few months earlier so things weren't too good. Then may this year was the last i heard from him. He stopped coming online so i textd him a few times but no answer. I figured he'd moved away and probably didn't want to know me anymore.....
So....monday night i suddenly get an anonymous comment in my lj, then a few others and it turns out it was him!! Saying he'd been back to bournemouth peir where we wrote our names and the date when we met for the first time a few weeks earlier, and he'd spent 2 hours reading all of my journal. So i managed to get talking to him and we spoke on msn for a little while, turns out he was at work (working in a warehouse). I asked him how he found my lj and he said he'd looked at my old one on another website and i'd last updated in april saying i had a lj. So he found the site and did loads of searches till he found me, then spent 2 hours reading it all!! I was amazed. We beifly touched on the split and he admitted he was still feeling abit 'lost'.
I asked him what had been happening all this time and he said too much had happened and he didn't have time to explain there and then, so we're gonna talk again soon.
I'm just wondering, why did he make such a huge effort to find me? He never has before, it was usually me contacting him. My friends said that he probably still has feelings for me. Any thoughts?
So....monday night i suddenly get an anonymous comment in my lj, then a few others and it turns out it was him!! Saying he'd been back to bournemouth peir where we wrote our names and the date when we met for the first time a few weeks earlier, and he'd spent 2 hours reading all of my journal. So i managed to get talking to him and we spoke on msn for a little while, turns out he was at work (working in a warehouse). I asked him how he found my lj and he said he'd looked at my old one on another website and i'd last updated in april saying i had a lj. So he found the site and did loads of searches till he found me, then spent 2 hours reading it all!! I was amazed. We beifly touched on the split and he admitted he was still feeling abit 'lost'.
I asked him what had been happening all this time and he said too much had happened and he didn't have time to explain there and then, so we're gonna talk again soon.
I'm just wondering, why did he make such a huge effort to find me? He never has before, it was usually me contacting him. My friends said that he probably still has feelings for me. Any thoughts?
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yeah a lot of people do that. when i pass through certain places, i sometimes think of past memories.
He might see you as an adhesive to bond the division he may be experiencing in his soul, and make him feel whole.