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Girls - is it easier to fall in love with a bad boy then a nice guy?
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Well, is it?
Seems to me more young girls (talking between ages 15-24 roughly) seems to fall for/want to go out with the bad boy more often then the nice guy. Why do you think this is so? :chin:
I mean you sort of know what the end outcome will be with a bad boy right? You will not have changed him and you'll most likely end up hurt. Is the excitment that a bad boy brings you better then the hurt that comes at the end of the relationship?
Seems to me more young girls (talking between ages 15-24 roughly) seems to fall for/want to go out with the bad boy more often then the nice guy. Why do you think this is so? :chin:
I mean you sort of know what the end outcome will be with a bad boy right? You will not have changed him and you'll most likely end up hurt. Is the excitment that a bad boy brings you better then the hurt that comes at the end of the relationship?
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(However, my bf seemed like a complete hardbey when I first met him - beating people up, taking drugs, etc etc. So, I suppose hes a bit of a stud muffin - everyone who meets him is a little intimidated, but really hes my squishy lil pickle.)
So the answer would be they would like best a "tough" or bit naughty "nice guy" , EG an ex marine who does volenter work with the homeless/disabled, they dont like guys who are so nice that others take advantage off.
Bad boys can be real arsholes, what about a guy that was nice to people but not so nice that they took advantage that the bad boys respected,
And of course someone so "bad" that there a real nasty piece of work is generally not considered attractive,
So its the bad boy with a careing side which is pobablt best.
What me you mean,
I worked this out sometime ago and its only been renforced since.
Aparently experements weredone with on line dating profiles and the women liked best guys that had something (ie a good job werea DJ's etc) and did volenteer work got the best responces.
With all cliches such as "women dont like nice guys" theres some truth you have to look beyond them for the real answer.
I guess opposites attract as I am a good girl and even though he gets in fights sometimes, it is just a front most of the time, i think with bad boys, there are like two sides to their personality, if you touch their hearts enough, they may just change for you but i am not kidding myself here, i am 23 and if it goes pear shaped so what, end of! lol
So ill be heart broken for a while but ill get over it and jezz i have that much faith in me to meet someone new one day! :chin:
xx
Anyways, now that I'm a little grown up. I prefer the good boy, who is sweet, affectionate and loveable. And not that keen on guys who play games and always trying to act tough to try and prove a point.
Lol exactly what I was going to say - also that people want bad boys because you always want what you can't/shoulnd't have - a bit like chocolate cake really.
At least you know what your getting with a bad boy,nice guys are a bit more difficult to gage,you can guarentee that at some point in time there going to reveal some really ugly side..
Well I think you need to define badboy.
I don't really have a conventional opinion on what 'love' is, but I'd not find your all around nice clean living guy compatible as I'm not like that at all.
I went out with one cos all my friends were, he was fit and we seemed to get on for a while. I knew it wouldnt last, I didnt say I loved him once.
I think people on these boards only see in black and white ... its not one or the other, council estate reprobate or meek, pleasant, mummy's boy! Shades of grey!
Probably because of the excitement value and evolutionary function.
thats what my bf's like
Nice people annoy me. My last proper boyfriend was "nice". At first it was great, 'cause he never argued with me, he always did what I said, he was always buying me stuff and catering to my every whim. But then I realised that him not arguing with me ever was boring as hell (and I used to be HORRIBLE to him to try and get him to argue with me). He never objected with my constantly biting and scratching him (what can I say, I'm a bit kinky when I want to be :angel: ;p). He was boring and annoying and ARGH.
I want someone who's gonna argue with me, disagree with some of the stuff I say, not let me get away with murder, take the piss out of me a bit (a BIT). But someone who cares about me and would defend me etc. Who isn't gonna screw me over. Yes.
"Nice" people won't say boo to a goose. Being pleasant should be as standard, it shouldn't be the defining aspect of your character. If it is then you are boring, and boringness is not an attractive character trait.
I think younger girls like the "bad boy" image of cheating and womanising because they like a good crisis. They like it when it goes wrong cause they get loads of attention from their friends.
As for the rest of the "bad boy" image, people who are sure of themselves are attractive, that is a fact. Arrogance isn't so attractive, but someone who has a lot of confidence and will fight back is very attractive.
As I said, people who's entire character is based on being nice are dull. Dullness is unattractive.
Those who use "nice" to define themselves do tend to be pushovers.
For one thing, I obviously have to agree that you can't define someone as either a bad boy or a nice guy, especially if being nice would be their only quality. If you're giving the choice of a bad boy (meaning half way towards criminal) and a nice guy (pushover), if I was a girl, I'd kill myself.
The attractive quality in the bad boys you talk about is their confidence and alpha male characteristics, but if this always ended in heartbreak, no one would go for them. And there's no sacred writing that a guy can't be an alpha and have good intentions.
The distinction between lust and love mentioned earlier (brace yourself), is complete bollocks, purely arbitrary semantics. You can't define the different types of attraction between the opposite archetypes using concepts that everyone defines differently. Maybe the lust/love distinction works with your definitions, but you can't guarantee anyone else will understand the point you're making.
And to the well thought out definitions of a bad boy with a heart and nice guy with a dodgy past, although I admire the depth of the argument, you can't even begin to divide people up into categories like that. That's one step away from believing there are only 12 types of people in the world (horoscopes... don't get me started). It might work for a few examples, but if you tried to apply it to the real world... good luck.
Sorry to anyone who's offended by my bluntness, but if you don't like what I say, then ignore me.