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Hi, I'm almost 17, and i'm having trouble asking my g/f about something, we've been going out for 6 months, we're still virgins, and i don't mind waiting, so thats not a problem. The problem is that i'd like to try something new, we've already done oral, but i'd like to go a bit farther. I'm sure i'd like it a lot if we tried 69, but i'm just not sure how to bring it up. And i don't know what she will think of it. Thx for any replies
Apollo
Apollo
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Well, I know I've said this a lot recently but just be up front about it. Your g/f is likely to be a bit insecure about sex in general [everyone is] whether you are a virgin or not, so just say as a "my mate and his g/f did this..." sorta thing. If you've never done it b4 [and tell her] then she's much more likely to be comfortable with it, if you treat it as an 'experiment'.
Say it sounds like fun, but if she doesn't like the idea of a 69er [a lot of girls don't] then just keep going with the other stuff! Like I said, the best way to go about it is if it's something you'd like to try together, see if you like it, or if it makes you gag <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> ! So long as she knows she's not being pressured, then she's more likely to have a go at it and then, more importantly, more likely to enjoy it!
Good luck and have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
After we started talking about 69, but she was a bit nervous, she said she was embarrassed about the position - she would be shy of where my head would be. One time when she wanted oral though, we didnt hav much time & so she got on top of me on the floor, she liked it like that & it wasn't a far step to 69 (she just had 2 turn around!). U could try that - see if she wants 2 try different oral positions.
I think the advice of Chica and Chris is excellent.
I hope it works for you.
regards derby.
Follow your heart and you can't go wrong
Yea Apollo I've tried it, it doesn't feel all that much different, apart from the fact that u can both get 'attention' at once, so it can be more enjoyable overall 4 both of you.
If she's more comfortable with just a blowjob then lickout, (not at the same time) then u should just accept it. It's not really worth pushing unless she wants to as well, you wouldn't be missing out on that much.
*Chris*
Actually I hate "69".
I love cunnilingus (going down) on my wife, knowing she enjoys it, the taste, her writhing, everything.
But I get really self conscious when her face is around my crotch. I start to get really worried as to whether my cock is clean (did I wash my foreskin this morning! etc), and oh god does my arse smell!!
This really puts me off!!
So apollo remember to have a bath before you go for it!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
regards derby
If I'm giving, I like to concentrate on that & pay attention to the signs etc etc.
& if I'm receiving I like to immerse myself in the pleasure without having to worry about what I'm doing.
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J9
my boyf did it, it was a lot less pleasurable for us both becoz you can't concentrate as much! I like to just lie back with his head between my legs and vice versa!
Plus I woz worried tht if i put all my weight on him i might suffucate him!
Just do it invidually, if your already havin oral it ain't that different and i personally don't think it's betta. Hope that helps m8
BaRt
Live Life On The Edge!
not trying to insult you or anything!
PPS
to appollo just ask her, all she can say is no! just don't force her, girls hate that!
BaRt
Live Life On The Edge!
I don't really understand your point, bart. Do u feel threatened by girls talking about their boyfriends??
Itz nice being in love. In fact itz the best!