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Lose virginity from fingering?
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Hi,i stayed at my girlfriends house over the weekend and the last time i stayed over we tried fingering but it hurt her so i stopped. This time she wanted me 2 even tho it hurt & over the weekend we worked up from 1 finger, by the time i left she could take 2 fingers all the way and 3 fingers but more shallow. She's never had sex, i was just wondering if she's still likely 2 have her hymen intact? There was no blood & she said it was ok, although she was hurting 4 an hour or so after 1 time.
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If you have fingered her, then her hymen will no longer be intact, although it might not have been when you started, even though she might not have had any sexual experience before you. A good portion of girls unknowingly break their hymen through physical activities like bike-riding, and of course if she is using tampons.
But your g/f is STILL a virgin if you haven't had sex [actual intercourse] however much fingering the pair of you have been up to, as the hymen doesn't have anything to do with virginity. Bleeding usually doesn't occur during fingering, but usually DOES during first time intercourse. And, fingering shouldn't really be painful at all, even the first time, so long as you were gentle, and I wouldn't be going in with three fingers to soon, because that can hurt.
*|* Chica *|*
Have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
Thanx Chica <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I wonder if she asks for more because of peer pressure. Maybe her mates are bragging about how many fingers they can take.
Well as you get older you will realise that bucket fannies are not too desirable (unless you are King Dong of course). Most guys like tight ones. Tighter pussies are pleasurable for both parties. Hehehe.
Anyway, jokes aside, on a serious note, you should really stop if it hurts her. And I am very concerned that it continues to hurt for an hour afterwards.
You could do serious damage to a girl this way and I know you do not intend to. So you two should just chill, caress, fondle, etc at your own pace and enjoy it. Forget whatever cool stigma is attached to how many fingers you can shove up there!
Iv never experienced more than 2 fingers myself and im still a virgin but the chances are she wanted you to try more now so that it hurts less when she has sex (with you or whoeveer) Obviously the more fingers you use the more like a penis it is (width wise!) and the more supple her vagina will be. I wouldnt worry about it too much - so long as your both happy thats all that matters! Your not doing anything without her permission so youve done nothing wrong! Have fun!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
BTW Chris, if you were actually fingering her more or less constantly for the whole of that weekend, that could have left her a bit sore just from that <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> (just a thought).
An all round good un really.