Lose virginity from fingering?

Former Member

Hi,i stayed at my girlfriends house over the weekend and the last time i stayed over we tried fingering but it hurt her so i stopped. This time she wanted me 2 even tho it hurt & over the weekend we worked up from 1 finger, by the time i left she could take 2 fingers all the way and 3 fingers but more shallow. She's never had sex, i was just wondering if she's still likely 2 have her hymen intact? There was no blood & she said it was ok, although she was hurting 4 an hour or so after 1 time.

Former Member

Hey Chris

If you have fingered her, then her hymen will no longer be intact, although it might not have been when you started, even though she might not have had any sexual experience before you. A good portion of girls unknowingly break their hymen through physical activities like bike-riding, and of course if she is using tampons.

But your g/f is STILL a virgin if you haven't had sex [actual intercourse] however much fingering the pair of you have been up to, as the hymen doesn't have anything to do with virginity. Bleeding usually doesn't occur during fingering, but usually DOES during first time intercourse. And, fingering shouldn't really be painful at all, even the first time, so long as you were gentle, and I wouldn't be going in with three fingers to soon, because that can hurt.

*|* Chica *|*

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Have fun <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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I was as gentle as i could be, it wasn't really my choice 2 try 3 fingers, i was happy with 1 but she wanted 2 try more & even wanted 2 try 4 fingers but i thought we shouldnt cos she hurt a bit after three. She uses tampons, i didnt feel her hymen, but she kinda sat down when we were doing it standing up, which made my fingers go a lot deeper, so i dont remember if it broke then.

Thanx Chica <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

If your girlfriend hurts at any stage you guys should stop. The punani is a very precious domain.

I wonder if she asks for more because of peer pressure. Maybe her mates are bragging about how many fingers they can take.

Well as you get older you will realise that bucket fannies are not too desirable (unless you are King Dong of course). Most guys like tight ones. Tighter pussies are pleasurable for both parties. Hehehe.

Anyway, jokes aside, on a serious note, you should really stop if it hurts her. And I am very concerned that it continues to hurt for an hour afterwards.

You could do serious damage to a girl this way and I know you do not intend to. So you two should just chill, caress, fondle, etc at your own pace and enjoy it. Forget whatever cool stigma is attached to how many fingers you can shove up there!

Former Member

I think u 2 should calm down a bit. How long have u been going out together?? Its not the physical side of the relationship that matters is it?? But if u love each other i guess u'll do what is right and what u want to do!!

Former Member

The hyman wont be intact now -and to be honest chances are it was broken the first time she used a tampon. The fact that it hurt isnt that wierd though, the first time i was, i had never even used a tampon, so it hurt quite a bit. Its kinda hard to explain though, cos even though it hurt i didnt want him to stop because i liked it at the same time. Does that make sence?
Iv never experienced more than 2 fingers myself and im still a virgin but the chances are she wanted you to try more now so that it hurts less when she has sex (with you or whoeveer) Obviously the more fingers you use the more like a penis it is (width wise!) and the more supple her vagina will be. I wouldnt worry about it too much - so long as your both happy thats all that matters! Your not doing anything without her permission so youve done nothing wrong! Have fun!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Ive been horse riding since I was ten and used tampons when I started my period, it never hurt me doing things like that. I cant understand why your gf is so keen for you to get so many fingers up her. Next time I would tell her no and ask why she wants you to.

Girl-From-Mars

id been fingered before and used tampons for ages, but when i had sex for the first few times it hurt like hell. so it desnt necessarily mean that if you use tampons you've brokne the hymen. although ive heard stories that it doesnt hurt that much when they have sex and is like a "sharp pinch". id say it was a bit more than that!!!!!

Former Member

I'm interested in the whole thing about sex hurting for the first time, because most women seem to say it does, whereas it didn't with my girlfriend and I. Are we just lucky, or is it that many women are rushed too much the first time, not treated gently and not turned on enough (etc.)? I know that this is definitely sometimes the case.

BTW Chris, if you were actually fingering her more or less constantly for the whole of that weekend, that could have left her a bit sore just from that <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; (just a thought).

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I was very relaxed on my first time, it wasnt planned and I was very young, but at the time it was something I wanted to do, things were just happening and we had a little talk about it then we ended up doing it. It wasnt painful but it wasnt pleasurable either (no orgasms) but I have to say that I am really happy about who I lost my virginity to. We dont see each other anymore but I was with him for about a year and a half and we didnt part on bad terms.

An all round good un really.

Girl-From-Mars

its not as if i was rushed or particularlynervous.. ok the VERY first time i was but we didnt continue, it must have been the 3rd or 4th attempt we actually did do it? it just felt totally unpleasant when he got past the first bit after the hymen... even after the first few times. and its not that i wasnt turned on or he wasnt being gentle either, hes totally gentle and takes things at my own pace. i guess i was just unlucky.

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JB - I dunno mate, I was totally relaxed and treated gently and it still hurt like crazy the first time