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how many is too many?
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the post about a girlfriend's past reminded me of the conversation i had with my boyfriend about our previous partners...
in the past 4 years i've had sex with 9 people, and in the past 7 years he's had sex with 8 people (i'm including him and he's including me in those numbers).
i felt weird because i've slept with more people in less time (but then he's done a lot of stuff with a LOT of people but not gone all the way with them, and i was in pretty serious relationships with most of the people i slept with, though admittedly not all)... anyway, most of my friends are virgins/ only slept with 1 person, so i really don't know what the 'normal' number is, and how far off it I am...
how many partners have people here had? what do you think the normal range is?
in the past 4 years i've had sex with 9 people, and in the past 7 years he's had sex with 8 people (i'm including him and he's including me in those numbers).
i felt weird because i've slept with more people in less time (but then he's done a lot of stuff with a LOT of people but not gone all the way with them, and i was in pretty serious relationships with most of the people i slept with, though admittedly not all)... anyway, most of my friends are virgins/ only slept with 1 person, so i really don't know what the 'normal' number is, and how far off it I am...
how many partners have people here had? what do you think the normal range is?
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people fall in love and take lovers at different paces. i have a friend who's been married 5 years to the first and only person he's ever slept with and a friend that has a quota on the number of women he sleeps with per month. ( <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> )
i know this may sound a bit hokey, but what do numbers matter if you're in love? it's who the person is now that's important. and if he's willing to remain monogamous and dedicated to you that's all that matters.
i mean talking about this topic with your bf is important, but don't let it get in the way of ur relationship.
live for now is what i'm saying.
good luck amadee <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
[This message has been edited by Calvin (edited 31-05-2001).]
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To be honest with you i would not think there is a proper number of people.
it depends on who you are and your personality.
p.s. FYI, zero in 17 years, so im not speakin from experience <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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