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OK, I'm quite a shy private person about this kind of subject so this is not easy for me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Right, myself and my partnet are newly married (and both virgins) and we tried to have sex for the first time recently.
We were unable to penetrate as my partnet found it to be uncomfortable and sore.
Having spoken to a close friend about it he mentioned some kind of membrane that seals her or something?
Kan anyone clear this or offer some words of wisdom?
Thanks... -B-
Right, myself and my partnet are newly married (and both virgins) and we tried to have sex for the first time recently.
We were unable to penetrate as my partnet found it to be uncomfortable and sore.
Having spoken to a close friend about it he mentioned some kind of membrane that seals her or something?
Kan anyone clear this or offer some words of wisdom?
Thanks... -B-
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I assume mastrubating her more in that area and trying to streach - by inserting/trying to insert finger(s) may help relieve this?
Also, should we do this untill we both feel comfortable enough with things down below for her before attempting penetration again?
After talking to her about it she said she does'nt want to try again... but I know it's her uncertainty about it - re above problem - than any underlying problems or not wanting to do it. I think she is also concerned as she works in the general practice that she would need to attend if she needed a doctor! - which i think may also be an underlying thought she may have. Am I making any sense here?
There must surely be other females with same uncertanties as my partner?
When it comes to penetration... would it perhaps be easier for her being on top?
I hope that the links and advice that Karla has given you provide you with some pointers in the right direction.
I feel that as Karla has suggested, you may need to seek further advice as a couple so you can overcome your specific difficulties and get answers tailored to your needs.
I'm going to close this thread now.
Regards,
Squinty. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif">
[This message has been edited by Squinty (edited 29-10-2001).]