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Little to no sex at all... I don't know what to do...
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This is going to sound horribly pathetic but I have been with my boyfriend for over 10 months now and our sex life isn't the same as it used to be. I understand complacency and how things could get old (although I do try to spice things up as much as I can) but I'm really starting to get worried. I ask my bf, lets call him Jim, why he hasn't seemed in the mood lately and he tells me "I just don't want to." I'm beginning to feel a bit neglected and unnoticed in almost all aspects of our relationship. He works from 8pm-4am and I work from 1pm-10pm which means we hardly ever see eachother (even though we live together now). There is no romance, little to no sex (and sadly I haven't received oral sex for close to 6 months now), but there is still love and adoration for eachother. I never used to be the relationship type so I guess you could say I was the kind of girl who got a bit of meaningless sex from random partners (always safe sex though) and it was always exciting. Now that I've settled down and have the one person I love I'm unsure of how exactly I'm supposed to bring the fun back into our sex life so that it's not just the same thing over and over again... help!!!
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I didn't think you Germans were that sheepish about sex, you made it seem from your other posts that you were up for it 24 hours a day.
I think you just need to talk to him, but not all lads are sex mad you know. Yes I know, I dont understand it either.
One day I will be old enough for the latter <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
We have an article here that may be useful: http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/mismatched_sex_drives.html