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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Milagro, I have a genuine concern that this is eating up your life. What happens when you're 50 and you're still obsessed with this guy and you're still no closer to meeting him. I can't help you and you probably realise that nobody here really can - heck, I'd be surprised if a psychiatrist could. Love is a powerful emotion. Ignore the comment regarding you as a freak, you get one or two people with a bit of attitude who like to throw off one liners.

    I'm glad that posting in this thread has helped you - sometimes talking about something can make us realise things and shed new light and give new hope. This is only the first step though, I gather that you yourself know that this can't go on, and there must be some way forward. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm completely qualified to tell you where to go - I'm just another 17 yr old internet geek browsing forums. But there are many places where people have training if not to help you directly but to point you in the right direction.

    I think a good port of call would be a trained mental health specialist - I'm not insinuating or implying that you're crazy, not at all - just that they will probably understand better than all of us here. Then again, sometimes they can be a bit of a waste of time.

    Please continue posting here though and let us know how things are going :) because it seems that just from this thread you feel better already, and that can only be a good thing.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Milagro wrote:
    Of course I recognize it's been unhealthy.That's why I had therapy for it.That's why I talk to people about it, that's why I came here to post about it.But it being unhealthy doesn't mean the feelings were not real.
    it doesn't sound as though your therapy was of much use to you tbh. and its okay to talk about your feelings and yes, your feelings are real for you..... but you need to be talking about your feelings within a context of dealing with them and moving on. not just talking for talking sake. and i seriously do think you could benefit from some professional psychiatric help, but that is going to useless until you are ready to face your feelings as a problem, and nothing more than a problem.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    otter wrote:
    it doesn't sound as though your therapy was of much use to you tbh. and its okay to talk about your feelings and yes, your feelings are real for you..... but you need to be talking about your feelings within a context of dealing with them and moving on. not just talking for talking sake. and i seriously do think you could benefit from some professional psychiatric help, but that is going to useless until you are ready to face your feelings as a problem, and nothing more than a problem.

    Absolutely agree with otter :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    TheShyBoyInTheCorner wrote:
    Milagro, I have a genuine concern that this is eating up your life. What happens when you're 50 and you're still obsessed with this guy and you're still no closer to meeting him. I can't help you and you probably realise that nobody here really can - heck, I'd be surprised if a psychiatrist could. Love is a powerful emotion. Ignore the comment regarding you as a freak, you get one or two people with a bit of attitude who like to throw off one liners.

    I'm glad that posting in this thread has helped you - sometimes talking about something can make us realise things and shed new light and give new hope. This is only the first step though, I gather that you yourself know that this can't go on, and there must be some way forward. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm completely qualified to tell you where to go - I'm just another 17 yr old internet geek browsing forums. But there are many places where people have training if not to help you directly but to point you in the right direction.

    I think a good port of call would be a trained mental health specialist - I'm not insinuating or implying that you're crazy, not at all - just that they will probably understand better than all of us here. Then again, sometimes they can be a bit of a waste of time.

    Please continue posting here though and let us know how things are going :) because it seems that just from this thread you feel better already, and that can only be a good thing.


    You 're so young yet so mature.I wish there were more people like you around-your communication skills are well above average.Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to post this.Even tho I 'm not convinced he is not the one(I mean, you never know what the future holds), I do recognize I need to distance myself from the whole thing, enough to get my life back on track.

    I do not wish to continue with this thread, or I 'll be rehashing same old.

    So bye-bye to this topic for now.But don't you worry, if there is *any development*, I 'll deff keep you ''posted''.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i feel like your life is running around in circle etc first stage (crush) second stage (praying) Third stage (coming near him) etc so on these stages are building it up and its going to get more powerful over time.

    It is possible that you maybe able to get him nothing is not impossible remember.
    But the ratio of this happening is 1000/1 or more :(

    I believe love is made up from the mind

    etc dreams of a loved one makes u closer to them
    thinking about them makes you closer
    telling your self you love them and so on again

    i believe it is possible to cancel your love out of you life even though it is hard but it might get harder in the future.
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