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said they don't know if they want to be in a relationship, they still love you and miss you but they are having confusing feelings, would you wait around for them if they promised to stay faithful?
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If I suspected they might be taking the piss and wanting to dump me gently, yet keep me faithful - ie keeping their options open so they can screw around and me wait for them, then no.
I'd view it as a sign that they're looking for the space to be young and live life without feeling tied down. But of course, every situation is different.
same, pretty much.
it would also depend on how the relationship had been up until that point, and if there was anything else going on in their life they might need to work through.
Will not always be like this, but that's it's been with me..!
.. that kinda reminds of that saying about having your cake and eating it!!
I.e. wanting you but not wanting the stuff that comes in being in a relationship ... if that makes any kinda sense
I'd tell him to do what he likes, and make it clear that while he is having his 'time out' from our relationship, I will be doing the same. I'd get myself out with the girls (or guys) and have a bloody good time.
I wouldn't sit around moping. Once he realised I was out and about, enjoying life without him I daresay he might understand what he stood to lose. If not then it obviously wasn't meant to be.
I'd never beg, if I begged him to come home and he did, I'd always wonder if he came home out of pity or guilt.