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Im not gay or bi.......but!
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Hi im new here and wondered if any of u could give me sum advice!
I know im not gay or bi and ive had loads of boyfriends! But the thing is ive started 2 have feelings for my best mate of the same sex and i know im in love with her?
I really dont want 2 feel like this coz its gunner ruin our friendship, ive already started bein off with her and tryin 2 aviod her, but we r so close its 2 hard!
i dont want 2 lose her friendship but its the only way i can see of gettin out of this situation?
If any of u hav got some better advice please let me no?
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I know im not gay or bi and ive had loads of boyfriends! But the thing is ive started 2 have feelings for my best mate of the same sex and i know im in love with her?
I really dont want 2 feel like this coz its gunner ruin our friendship, ive already started bein off with her and tryin 2 aviod her, but we r so close its 2 hard!
i dont want 2 lose her friendship but its the only way i can see of gettin out of this situation?
If any of u hav got some better advice please let me no?
thanks <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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Thats wats confussing me, shes my best mate why am i having these feelings its gunner mess up everything! and i dont think i could tell her if i wanted 2 <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Telling her may not be the best idea just yet, play the waiting game and see how you feel once you had time to clear your head.
Don't feel pushed or forced into anything just yet, it would be silly to tell people your gay or bi and then later your feelings change and you go back to liking man, Also how old are you?
Nice idea for you Bangkok Chick Boy but I’m not sure it helping miss naughty1 <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
If you still lose her friendship after all that, then maybe she wasn't as good a friend as you had thought. <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Well, if you find her attractive and fancy her then you are bi sexual, whether you like it or not. There is no need to be ashamed. I thin once you have admitted that to yourself things will be easier.
If you're straight you fancy ONLY men, but you fancy your mate, so you're not straight. Get over it.
Think about this, you only fancy one girl, so you can't be bi? Well I only fancy one bloke, so maybe I'm not straight?
I know things could become awkward between you too, and I think that you would mess up your friendship if you did anything. Try to concentrate on other stuff. Perhaps it is only a phase and you don't actually fancy her, perhaps you are just confuseing feelings of respect and adoration for ones of fancying her?
talk to your friend and see what happens
Where abouts in Croydon you Necros, Sorry PM me if you don't want to say.
Well you not gay or Bi then and this is just little phase!!!
It should go soon and your be back to thinking, and doing God knows what with boys
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(sorry to talk in txt)
i went through this myself.i love my mate soooooo much and she knows it. she loves me to but in a differnt way. bac to the point.
the thing is its would be best to tell her. if ur to scared try giveing her a hyperthetical(sp)question. ask her wot she would do if a close female mate liked her like that.
if she totally frecks out dnt tell her wot you think about her. if she doesnt exept who you are im sorry to say shes not a very good freind. but if she is she will love you no matter weather you fancy her or not. you never know she might be going through the same as you and want you just as much as you want her. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
i hope ive helped you.
good luck.
good luck
xMEx
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well i told her yesterday and she admitted she had these feelings in the past and she thinks its just because we r just so close!!!!!!
shes fine wiv it and it looks lik our friendship will b fine!! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Just because you and a mate might experiment together in no way locks you into some box that says you can only be this or that. Same for your friend.
So you might want to just go and do the girly stuff you do as best mates and at a moment when you might be just feeling really comfy together maybe lying head to head talking about stuff just ask if she has ever thought about experimenting with a female. a nice general question that doesnt throw your desire in her face.
No doubt she will ask you then or at some point if you have and you can do the old "well, hmmm... yeah actually i have." now if you get her to open up and share her fantasy and it seems to match yours then do that conspiratorial whisper that girls do and just ask if she wants to experiment with you as your private thang.
I think youd find she has as many curiosities as you do.
Good luck and dont make videos to satisfy the hounds we got here. WOOF Down doggies!
Im glad she is cool with it and sorry that you didnt get a chance to experiment together.
Good luck though!