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Can guys and girls ever be just close friends?
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the reason im asking, is cos it seem every time i have a male friend something always happens! like i mean i wil end up liking them or they wil end up likin me or we end up goin out, stuff like that. alot of my friends have had similar experiences.
just wondered if others have had these situations happen to them or if they do have close friends of opposite sex?
just wondered if others have had these situations happen to them or if they do have close friends of opposite sex?
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The only thing id change is that they can be WAY over protective of me!!!
But hey, its nice to know they care!
:wave:
These feeligns either wear off, get stronger or you both find feelings for each other....though there are the exceptions as always
Personally, I attend an all-girls school, and of the limited male friends I have, I either like them, or they like me and I don't fancy them in return.
But I guess some people can sustain friendships accross genders.. I just haven't witnessed it yet.
It's easier when you are older, and both people are settled with partners.
Ilora x
i agree wid ya! there is always going to be sum kinda sexual fing goin on and some times it wont be mentioned.If you like the guy then thats great myt even b fun but its a bit harsh wen u genuinly like the guy as a m8 n he xpects more cuz turnin him dwn is nasty! But it just depends on what u want from your freindship 2 init?
Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't keep using text talk my dear
My bestest mates have always been blokeys. Although once one of my best mates liked me, that was when we were diddy. We grew up, it wore off and now friendship blossoms so no...there's not ALWAYS something sexual going on.
I have found though, that some male friendships wore thin when I said I wasn't interested otherwise...but the 'true' ones withstand as they ain't interested - we've known each other too long in most cases to bebothered with fancying one another...!
Malt xxx
Peace
I have female friends who I don't fancy and am completely comfortable with as friends...but that doesn't prove anything. For all I know, they might fancy me. I know this because I'm completely in love with one of my female friends but I can't tell her for fear of screwing up our friendship.
She might know I suppose. It might be really obvious. But I'm guessing she hasn't got a clue what I feel for her.
I've experienced this several times, and as you say it just shows who the true ones are, but one of my best friends is male, he's been in love with his gf for over a year and i have a boyfriend and I can confidently say that neither of us have feelings for the other past friendship and thats great
If both parties are single then being close friends can often merge into something more, but then why not? The only time that it dont (right or wrong as it seems) happen is when one party is out of the others league and both know it but don't like to say.
So, yes, it is possible to be just friends even if occasionally things develop further.
I think lad-girl mates can work out, I have tons of lad mates but I have tons of girl mates too. Different things work for different people though.
Millsy_Magic
I have a fantastic female mate who I've never been involved with or fancied, and she's never fancied me, although we do get on well and have chemistry. Whether you would define that as sexual chemistry I don't know
I have several close female friends and don't fancy them, and they don't fancy me. It becomes a lot easier when people are settled.
I've thought about it before and it really is unique. I am going out with her best friend who she's practically twins with, but my relationship with my friend is unique, I've never got on with someone the same. *shrugs*
Although I can see the counterpoint as I have seen the situation happen where a guy and girl become good mates and then one makes an unexpected move.