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my advice is to wait and see what happens. give it at least 6 more months if not more to 'label' yourself if you feel that need. i'd say that you can't know for sure if it's not long since you started having the feelings.
I think everyone truely knows what there orientation is. I find women very attractive and I know what gets me excited
But hey im straight but I respect anyone who is gay or bi, its nothing out the ordinary in this day and age.
Be happy with who you are and don't let other people's narrow minded opinions stymie your natural feelings. That's the best advice I can give.
Does that mean that they can't be for someone else?
Nothing wrong with liking a bit of bum, I mean I find myself attracted to both sexes (flip a coin before I go out to see which I'm taking home at the end of the night lol) and I don't think anything of it. I can see though because at first it's hard, but why should love be gendered and why should you want to put a label on yourself?
take care xx
Well I am new here as well..and I find this quite offensive to someone who is trying to figure out thier sexuality......making him uncomfortable about it is not gonna help
I would like to say, exploring your sexuality is perfectly wonderful and ok. I myself have been doing alot of it as of late. I am blessed with finally finding a wonderful man who lets me explore...not that he will complain about having two women around......but some men do get a bit wierd about sharing..
I say go with what you are doing and feeling....If you stuff these feelings down now...they will resurface later anyway..and maybe not at the right time. It is to bad you cheated on your girl though.....or she may have been more understanding....
But I think that everything in life happens for a reason...good, or bad....all has a purpose.
I wish you all the best in your journey....it is a wonderful and exciting one! :flirt:
~Tainted~
Most of all, just know, some of the "homophobics" are really in the closet themselves and in denial of it. Thats why they hate you, because you have to confidence to be honest about it. :thumb:
Either way, don't try to chat me up! (j/k, but please, don't. If im in the wrong kind of bar, just tell me.)
Let's just all try and be a bit more sensitive in the future, though.
Answering the original question, I would simply say you don't need to "decide" on your sexuality just yet.
I think you could be bi and you have a girlfriend so you must have some feelings for her.
As for the picture, I find it more offensive that someone got on their high horse and lorded the fact that they're more moral(/politically correct) than someone else. If offence was intended then the time it would have taken to attach that pic could have been spent typing something really hateful. Britguy's not complained yet, which is surely indicative of something... Btw britguy, can you remember ever falling for a girl when you were in primary school or something? Like a proper crush? I'm no expert, but due to cultural factors I'm guessing gay lads might well have had a really good lad mate that gives them the butterflies and skin tingling etc, all the while thinking 'wonder when i'm gonna start fancying girls then'... In a way it's a shame that homosexuality is something that people sort of have to cope with post puberty, in fact if I were to write an essay I'd look into regression and suppression along with the promiscuity of a lot of gay subcultures... Queer as Folk was a great one for that, really got to the heart of sexuality and societal impositions etc...on a lighthearted note, if you can watch an episode of that all the way through without turning away then you just might be bent yet :P
Finally, however, personally I think cheating in a relationship is right down there as one of the fucking lowest things you can do, and I hope that you've realised you'll have messed your ex up a treat and feel shit about it, remember that feeling next time you go to cheat again and think twice.
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i think frued would say it like "ah father jack is not a priest"
Couldn't have said it better myself. Speaking from a gay point of view I'd say just let what happens with this guy happen (of course only if you want it too!) Another thing I'm going to add is, don't feel obligated to do anything with him just for the hell of it or because you think it's a what gay guys do. Take things at your own pace, this is all new to you. Be careful and HAVE FUN! :thumb:
i can see how the picture can be seen as insensitive, but not really agressive or homophobic. if anyone has a problem in future, contact me on PM, and ill address the situation.